Someone I loved for 6 months hurt me very much by telling me he did not want me to contact him again and that we have nothing in common. Since he said that I feel a huge void inside me, an emptiness, like I cannot feel anything, whether sadness or not where he is concerned now. Is this normal? Am I in shock and suddenly all the pain will start flooding in? I am finding it hard to feel anything for him at the moment...I feel numb...
2007-03-16 21:44:45 · 11 answers · asked by SK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WHY she done it???what reason?you must change mistkes,if you do it....
2007-03-16 21:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a normal reaction. Here are just two examples from my life. When my daughter started getting sick (she eventually died) I withdrew and lost contact with all friends while my wife (now ex-) took a sabbatical from work. After her death it took many months of counseling just to show emotion (not that we didn't cry when she died) because I could not connect with my feelings. Then I went thru the gamut - sadness, why me, crying, anger at God, anger at bossy in-laws who messed with her dying process, etc. Life lesson #2: I had this girl in college I really liked but she just barely wanted to be my friend. I asked her out but no way. I also had a good friend at college who had a key to my apartment as he was living at home and needed some privacy now and then. One day when I came home from a class that had been cancelled I found them having sex in my bed. I was numb for a week and evetually started feeling sorry for myself, then I started to hate them, then I started to hate her more than him because he didn't know how much I had cared (I never told him). Then I got a big chip on my shoulder over insecurities of being turned down by women that took years to overcome (see life experience #1 above). Sometimes numbness is the first line of defense which must ultimately be overcome to get back to reality. You need to break out of your numbnesss before it gets out of hand like mine did.
2007-03-20 08:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yeah that you are in a shock stage. We all react differently to things that happen, and you are normal. You may feel times of pain as you go by a familiar place or memory and that is normal. It will pass. We all go through different types of pain. This particular one is not easy. But you WILL make it and grow through it. Yes. Grow. Time. Go out and spend some time doing things with your girlfriends. I am not saying to deny it, but do work it out slowly and doing things with your buddies can help with the time factor in healing.
2007-03-16 22:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by Angelyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's shock or depression. Find a good, supportive friend to talk to. Maybe someone who's going through the same type of thing. And start to move on with your life, even though it's very hard.
2007-03-16 21:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by terryloub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it sounds like shock.
you need to turn to your closest friends and find one or two who have time for you and let all your feelings out.
or maybe a counsellor, i tried one a while ago and it really helped after i broke up from my ex.
when somebody does this to you our of the blue its very shocking, hurtful, you feel hust and used and full of questions why.
rest assured, it is nothing you have done wrong, or anything about you - this person is a coward who upped and left you for selfish reasons.
take time to work thru your feelings, dont be ashamed of them, letting them out will help you heal. your friends will help you with this. get them round, buy lots of wine, have good talk and go with the flow!
its his loss, you can be sure of that.
move on with yiour head up high, his karma will prevent him having much success in relationships... you will find a real man soon!
good luck
2007-03-16 21:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have reached my age, this would have happened to you hundreds of times, it's part of life and an essential ingredient on the path to discovering the right one for you.
If this never happens, you'll never find your true love. Although painful, bear with it, it's all worth it in the end.
2007-03-16 21:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Peter V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you got hurt, but in shock... no sweetie sorry, get a dictionary and look up the definition of shock. Your just hurt, it will be o.k.
2007-03-16 21:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
totally normal, felt like that when i got dump. everyone reacts in different ways. you might not ever really feel the pain. time is a healer
2007-03-17 02:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by helen b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to change area, go on picnic , contact other people , see old friends..Do not stay so sad ; you’ll harm yourself.
2007-03-16 22:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by Johny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hun. thats terrible! well maybe you'd might want to go for help. i don't know but if its depression, your not weird or anything a lot of people suffer from it. don't be afraid to go for help.
2007-03-16 21:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋