iam engaged with my parents choice.he was stranger for me. but now i love him very much .i was engaged last year with him. sudden he had loss in his bussuness . now my parents want to break my engagement. but i love him and i love my parents too . how can i leave my pheonsi alone at this time. which he need my support. what should i do .did i forget my love or forget my parents what should i do help me
2007-03-16 21:10:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Firstly your parents Love you and they always want you to live happily in your in-laws place, so knowing that he may not be able to support you, they are right in wanting to break the relationship.
Secondly, Had this event taken place after marriage what would you have done? Its been God's choice to have it before marriage.
Thirdly, You are a great Lady. In India we only Love once, and dont change our boy-friends and bed partners at the wink of the eye. Your Fiance is very Lucky to have a lady like you and I support you for that.
Fourthly, Is your fiance like that too? God forbid, If something misreble happened to you are you sure that he would also still support you? Since you are engaged to him over a year you should be knowing his nature by now.
Lastly, Since he has gone through a financial crisis can he afford to bear the cost of marriage and the family?
Now after weighing all these you calculate the 1. Break the Marrige proposal, 2. Go ahead and marry. 3. This is MY CHOICE: Give this proposal to both parties your parents and fiance: Give him a chance, and yourself too. Dont break the marriage proposal. But postpone it, lets say for a two years. During this period YOU DONT MEET OR TALK TO HIM UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. If after two years he has recovered, AND you both still want each other (if still un-married till then) then go ahead best of luck. or else look for another partner on Friend finder link and other important links on http://www.india-links.1freehost.net .!
2007-03-17 01:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
From the little I know about business, it is a game of profits and losses. I suppose your fiance (and not pheonsi as you have typed) has only suffered a loss and not gone broke. If he is clever enough, he will rebuild his business and make profits in no time. This is the test of your love. If you really love him, you should stick to him in his hour of crisis. If you care for money only, you can blindly obey your parents. Finally, certain things have to be done against parents' wishes, if they turn out to be unreasonable. You can postpone your marriage till such times as his business has recovered. Breaking the engagement would be too selfish.
2007-03-17 06:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some of the answerer's are mean. No one has too know perfect english to have feelings and want some help.
Anyways, back to the question. I think you should go with your heart. If you love him, don't leave him because he is not making money right now. Your right he needs your support, maybe that will boost his convidence to motivate him to do better at his business.
Well, Good luck. I hope you make the right decision.
2007-03-16 23:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by hellodarling 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do not question your parents for an stranger. Parents ka darja life men Bahut uncha hota hai. They love us selflessly. Which in this world no one does except teacher.
In 1970 my cousin had a girl friend. Her father did not like my cousin. He sent her to the "mama jee's home" & arranged her marriage to a "Karorpati. She was never able to see my brother "26 years after her marriage that girl met my sister who was her friend too in USA & told "what ever parents karte hain Accha karte hain."
my cousin was a class one officer.
Do you think if tomarrow somebody local comes closer to you & shows his love you will not start loving him? Sure you will start loving him too.
Parents have lots of experiance they know what they are doing, Love ,Pyar yeh sab abstract noun hai. Care is a verb which you are getting from your parents.They care for you. If you have guts to talk to them then you can requestfully say that I feel pity for this guy can we wait for a year or 2 till he gets his job back or another job?
Humen brain is strange "Jo bhee kahta hai I love you wo usee ko pyar karne lag jata hai.
That is why it is not good that ham log apnee life ko kisee ke dukh se shaheed kar den. By being wife of an unemployed son of the family you will not be loved & cared very nicely in the family too. After marriage you will have some requirment how will he satisfy those requirment if he will have no job?
Just thank God that he lost job before marriage. If after marriage then? I have seen newly wed people trying to commite scucide after loosing job.No body will like an unemployed husbandwife even.
Shadee torne men kahin koi Galati Tumahare parents nahee kar rahe hain.
2007-03-17 18:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who runs your life you or your parents? Make your own choice if you love him stay with him and work things out so many young people today take the easy way out and split. You can still love your parents and they mean well but it's up to you.Good luck.
2007-03-16 21:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by pmdan00 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi dear
dont feel bad,but truly speaking ,u r english is hectic,
nice 2 know u love him n ur true 2 him,
this is d face of life which will show whether u truly love him r not,
n i think bussiness has profit n loss,
convince ur parents to accept him
he hasn't lost his job i guess,
loss can b recovered,
n i think parents wil listen 2 u
2007-03-18 04:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by Manu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont forget about anyone. You need to tell your parents that they had a chance to live their lives. Now leave me alone and let me live mine. After all your living to make yourself happy, not them. If they love you, they will understand. Follow your heart.
2007-03-16 22:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by tom c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm guessing that you live outside the USA, and that English is not your first language (so ya'll who are saying crap about the spelling, it's hard to learn another language!)
Anyway, could you talk to your parents about this? Or could he talk to your parents? I hope a compromise would be possible. Good luck!
2007-03-16 21:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Happy go Lucky 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If u really want him to be your life partner then convince your parents so that you may live with him peacefully...But remember that you must also have some earnings..So arrange first for your livelihood and then join his hands to lead a happy life...
All the best
2007-03-16 21:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you don't forget your love and you don't forget your parents. talk to your parents. explain to them what you feel-that you really love your fiancee now and you want to help him and you don't want to break your engagement coz it will make you unhappy. maybe they will understand your feelings. try it, girl.and good luck.
2007-03-16 21:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋