(Its funny that at this age of mine 21 im still unfamilliar to the issue of losing the virginity.)I do have a principle that im going to give my virginity to the man i love after our marriage but i have a bf rightnow who wants to have it i love this bf of mine but i dont want to break my principle im afraid his going to live me.
2007-03-16 20:55:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am 19 and i am a virgin and i plan on staying like that til marriage to and to answer ur question well the girls i know says it hurts the first time well goodluck on keeping to ur princple
2007-03-16 21:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by james d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is GREAT that you have a principle to WAIT. It is well worth it, NO lie. To answer your question, I can say that most every female that has lost her virginity or had sex with a man, the first time is not exciting. It could be painful or like a numb feeling. ( And you can be like, you mean that is it?) Yes, so you would be better off waiting...... believe me. you are not missing anything!! But after time, behind the safety of being in marriage and with your husband who loves you it gets better!! And it is beautiful and worth saving for that time, so you got it right!! But once that door is open you cannot go back and undo it. I know of a gal who lost hers to a guy who didn`t stick around. (And the percentage of that happening is way high !!You are not an exception.) And I remember some of her friends being shocked that she was still a virgin at the young age of 14!!! And she was afraid of losing him too. So she did it, and felt very different afterwards physically and mostly emotional stuff ........ she told me not a good different, but like numb negative feeling...... she talked to a friend afterwards and she asked how it was and it was not anything great like all the hype her boyfriend and world says and she was disappointed and even if it would have been, she still lost her boyfriend and her virginity was a gift ...... and if she could go back, she would,and she would of saved it for her husband (that she has now) she lost something very precious that day and regrets it still to this day. She and I would strongly encourage you to WAIT!! And with this bf of yours, if he doesn`t value your precious gift that can only be opened after the altar of marriage vows........meaning you are precious enough to take care of the rest of your life and have a family and a marriage that you are worth protecting ........ if he just wants the SEX than that is NOT love. No matter how much he says the word "I love you." What scares me is that you say that you love him. That means that you have already opened your heart and emotions to him and you could prob be persuaded by smooth talk because of your attachment to him (emotional) and your fear of losing him. That is not healthy. He should be uplifting you and respecting you. And you should not have to change your principle. If you do ........ give in .........you will lose respect for yourself and he will too. Not a healthy relationship!!
2007-03-16 21:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Angelyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a virgin and I'm 18, and I think it's cool you want to keep your virginity. I think that denying sex from your boyfriend would truly show if he loves you in return. Keep dating him for a long while to see if he remains loyal and respecting to your decision to remain a virgin. Whether you're keeping your virginity for personal or religious reasons, virginity is sacred; once someone defiles your virginity, it's gone forever.
The closest way to the feeling of sex is masturbation. It helps you get in touch with your own personal sexuality.
2007-03-16 21:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't hesitate to keep your virginity.. it worth more than keeping your bf, who you do not know if you are meant to be..
i have the same principle as you, 'keep virginity till marriage'..
not giving your SELF (you know it) doesn't mean you don't love him anymore.. it's just you have to respect yourself first so you can respect others too..
Good luck.. =)
2007-03-20 11:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there aren't any signs of losing your virginty, although i hear some ppl bleed a little... it hurts a bit the first time too.
anyway, congrats on living by your values and not just having sex because your boyfriend wants to.
2007-03-16 21:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by bdazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no signs and you really don't feel any different-esp. after the first couple of times. Don't worry about something so petty.
2007-03-16 20:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry, there are lots of girls that haven't had sex at 30.
Stick up to your principles, it's all you have from yourself.
If he leaves you it's his problem, not yours.
You lose your virginity whenever you want.
2007-03-16 21:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by SongMaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he leaves you, then you are much better off. If a guy can't respect your decision then he shouldn't be your guy.
2007-03-16 21:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by arzachel81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are really no "signs", it's not a drug or anything. you've lost your virginity when you have sex and that's it
2007-03-16 21:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋