pls help me?

Question

whenever somebody is rude with me or is mean to me i keep thinking about that incidence for a long time
this is a bad habit
and it ditrubes my life consumes time and makes me feel very low
wat should i do ?

Answer 1

this is not a bad habit!!!

its just that u r a mere human........

u know what!!! generally we tell people to forget the unpleasent things in their life.......but of course one who bears surely knows that its never easy to do so

years back .....i was the same but little hard work made me realise its nothing remebering wrong happenings......its just painful...but if we don't have any choice with that ...atlest we can remember our right lessond from wrong incidents

this way we make ourselves happier........

try this it will help you!!!

Answer 2

You should look at the situation differently. Understand that the idiot, I mean, person that is being rude is so insecure or unhappy with themselves that they have to act that way. Realize that people are going through alot too, so while their actions may come off as rude, they might be going through hell or having a bad day too.

i can't get my words to come out right

basically this: I once had a cell phone with a company i won't mention - every month I had to call and argue about false charges on my bill - this went on for 6 months before it all got worked out - each time i became really stressed, and sometimes cried, because iw as getting so upset - there was no way for me to get stuff corrected - the phone company even hung up on me twice!! Anyway, it was after this or during this that something occurred to me. OMG - imagine all the other people that are going through whaat i'm going through - what a bad day that could lead someone to have!! Since then, I have learned to not take the actions of others so personally and instead assume that things might not be going so well on their end either....



On a public bus, a lady sat in her seat - her 4 kids ran wild. finally, a man got up and yelled at the lady, "Why don't you control your kids?!" the lady replied, "i'm sorry. their father was just killed and we've been at the church all day. i don't know what to do." How do you think the guy felt now?

Answer 3

Do you contantly think what did I do to make this person act this way towards me?
I do the same thing--I dwell on the situation for a long time.
Sometimes, you read more into a situation then it actually is. For instance, I always thought that this person was incredibly rude to me for no apparent reason. I one day was talking to them and they said that they were just very shy and found it hard to look people in the eye or greet them. People have their own trials and tribulations and often behave rudely for no apparent reason. If you can switch the thinking in your head to say "Gee, there must be something wrong with that person because of the way they treated me." Rather then what you probably think "What did I do wrong to cause that person to treat me like they did."
Most of the time, it has 0 to do with you.
There are a lot of inconsiderate and rude people that you will come across in this world.
If you find yourself continuing to think about it---write down exactly what you are feeling and then go back to what you wrote a day later. You have to put a conscience effort into not taking things so personally.
Good Luck

Answer 4

Well learn not to take what others say to you at heart, there are a lot of rude people out there, and if you are always thinking about what they have said to you, well then it is a problem, cause it is distrubing your normal life, plus sounds like it is giveing you low self esteem which you do not need on top of it. So you really need to let things go that people you do not know say to you, cause they are just rude, and enjoy seeing if they can upset others. Yes it is a bad habit, actually i think it is more then just a habit, cause it is effecting your life so much. So you need to learn not to pay attention to their remarks, yes i know that is a hard one. Or if you can not do it alone you need to get a therapist, and work on this problem with him/her. Cause if you do not it will just turn into a bigger problem, and disturb your way of liveing even more. That you do not need. And if other issues comes up, work on them too, that way you can get them all out of the way. Stuffing is not good, so if you are stuffing your feelings, and have been for a long time, well you need to get help with that, cause that is a lot of stress locked up inside of you, and you just do not know how it is going to come out, so please get help , and get feeling better, and build that self esteem of yours , cause you are worth it.

Answer 5

This is nt bad habit because u remember all the things its gie to experience to know about the people.so u can guess for them they rede u or not .
dont be upsete if anyone rude u think about that incidence and take possite point of that incidence

Answer 6

You are probably dwelling on why they were mean or rude to you --- this is what is making it linger so long in your mind.

Don't bother yourself with the "why" , it is just a fact of life that some people are mean and rude to other people --- they have the problem, not you.

Answer 7

Just live by the Golden Rule and you'll get over it. Just because people transfer their anger onto you doesn't mean you are at fault. Sometimes they don't even intend to be rude it just sounds that way. If you continue to be nice to people, eventually they will be nice to you.

Answer 8

It is the natural thing. Do meditation, look the brighter part of the incident.
Nindak Neare rakhiye, angan kuti chhaway.
Bin Pani Sabun bina, nirmal kare subhay.

Answer 9

this also happens to me i think it is not a bad habit it is a situtation of mind in which mind is very distubed .... when it happens to me i just try to divert my mind to some other thing like listening music..... listen music is the best way for me to make my mind free it make us feel relax ...i suggest that u should try this it will help u a lot..

Answer 10

Do meditation for an hour daily and in a month you will start forgetting such incidents.