I am a 27 year old man who has kept his life clean, is educated, and attractive. I have dated a woman with a 1 year old once and it was a nightmare. After that I will never date a woman with kids ever again. Why should I settle for a woman who has been had and impregnated by another man anyway?
2007-03-16 20:46:54 · 15 answers · asked by martialartsman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm the same as you ( kept cleean, educated, have a great job, am sucessful, own my home out right..and quite the looker I might add) but I was agreeing with you all the way and going wow, I get this guy then when I read the last sentence, I thought, wow he won't get laid ! It depends on the situation. I have no kids either, but you never know what is ment to be...be careful what you wish for, your luck the love of your life won't be able to have kiddos, that would suck wouldn't it. Judge the person not the situation or what baggage they come with. It can be hard, but if it's not hard, usually it's not worth it. I am also a bit shocked about your..impregnated by another man anyway....let's hope that all your guys have remained just WET STICKY SOCKS! :) You don't know everyones situation! Don't judge a book by it's cover...that's tomm's youth, that you are talking about!
2007-03-16 20:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by a a a a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a real good one,wait and think about that for a second, I think exactly like u, and I totally understand u cause I have been there before, I personally wouldn't, go after what u want and or feel more comfortable with, so no I don't think ur a bad person,it's on the individual, u know, some ppl don't care, the right girl will come along, just remember one thing,as other ppl have put this on me if you were in that type of situation u would want someone to give u a chance, right? But in the long run u already experienced it and didn't like it so next time before u get to involved,get to know the person first(background , baggage etc..)maybe test the waters as friends and then take it from there u may never know! Good Luck!
2007-03-16 21:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Romance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to not want that. I don't think you should feel bad about it but I also don't believe you should put a single woman w/ children in a category as if she's "tainted". You may miss out on your soulmate if you completely exclude a woman w/ children all single moms are not the same and all kids are not the same. You could actually love someone else's child. I hear that so often about it not being your own child. I think anyone who can't love a child simply because they're not a product of you is egotistical.
2007-03-16 20:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There are adequate single Fathers accessible who're separated from their youngster's mom. i'm particular they does not concepts relationship yet another determine. a guy or a woman with out young ones could be waiting to make the alternative no remember if or no longer they prefer to be in charge for somebody else's.
2016-10-02 06:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not an unreasonable request, but your last sentence was completely ignorant! In the same tone as that, why would any woman want to sleep with you given that other women have already had you? See what I am saying? Try to have more insight than that.
2007-03-16 20:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by zeonchar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're living in Saudi Arabia, Sri Lanka or one of those backward Countries where the little dick men have low self esteem and force the women to walk behind them and not get Educated lest they become smarter than them and bruise their ego. I hope you're not living in a Western Country with these Medieval Ideologies otherwise you're just ignorant.
2007-03-16 20:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You know exactly what you don't want & you shouldn't have to apologize for it.
However, there are very many nice, divorced or widowed women with children. Your attitude may cause you to lose out on happiness. I wonder why it is that your heart isn't big enough to include loving a child - regardless of who its father is?
2007-03-16 21:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you are just being true to yourself. afterall you had a bad experience before. I would not think that you are a bad person for this. But i just got to add that love transits all and i dont exactly agree with your reasoning of 'settling for a women who had been had...'. till the day you've experienced true love i guess you'll never understand that. God bless!
2007-03-16 20:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by sssharon :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a bad person. That's totally understandable. Anyone who tells you different, is is an idiot.
We all have things we aren't willing to compromise on, and if that's one of yours, so what?! It's your life!
Just becareful not to be too quick to rule someone out just because of their kids though, because you could end up missing out on someone great, whose kids, you might end up loving too...just a thought, but I do agree, completely with you otherwise.
2007-03-16 20:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by Canadian Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all a matter of preference but just remember you never know what your situation may be. You may marry have a kid or two divorce and be back on the market.
2007-03-16 20:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by Jade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋