my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half, i'm young and aware i am not stable enough to marry him yet, however I get these urges where I really want him to propose, I love him and he loves me. he's made it clear I am who he wants to marry and I feel the same. I just want college sorted out and a decent job before i walk down the isle, none the less the daydreams and fantasies and constant giddy feeling of wanting to at the very least be engaged keeps flooding my mind. I've mentioned it to him and sometimes I worry if i am being to pushy on the subject not by choice but because i seriously can't stop talking about it, what should I do? he's said i'm not being pushy. why do i have this never ending urge. is it because i love him and I can see myself with him or is it something attached to my youth that makes me want marriage?
2007-03-16 20:08:24 · 14 answers · asked by TPete 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
By the way so there is no confusion I am in my third year of college and i'm 20
2007-03-16 20:15:55 · update #1
we already went shopping for an idea of "the ring" and he calls me by his last name all the time
2007-03-16 20:23:20 · update #2
I am 20 years old and my fiancee is 27. We are getting married July of this year. It is perfectly normal to feel the way you are feeling now....I think every woman feels that way about the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with. There would be nothing wrong with him proposing now and you staying engaged until everything with school is sorted out. In reality, nothing has to be sorted out to be married...my schooling is still going on and I want to marry him and spend the rest of my life with him. Do what you want to do, and remember that if you love him, then you should know if he is the one you were meant to be with. Good Luck!!
2007-03-17 00:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends a great deal on your guy.
Does he respond well to it? Or does he tolerate it?
You should also bear in mind that if you focus so much on the actual day, you'll find your life a bit empty the day after.
It's a bit like heaven or paradise: Everybody wants to go there, everybody knows it's good, but no-one can tell you what you'd do there all day.
So ... sorry, this sounds unfriendly, but get a life! Getting a job is a good start!
And... Do Stop Talking about it. It is a choiche; it's not like your mouth has a will of its own; it's you and it's your choice to talk about it all the time. If you say 'I can't stop it' you're basically saying you're not in control of yourself.
Don't say that. Just zip it, every now and then.
2007-03-17 06:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just how it goes girl. We all get giddy, or else we'd never tie the knot. My daughter is in the same boat.... 20, 3rd year of college and at xmas he couldnt wait any longer so he popped the question. As a mom, I wish they would h ave done the promise ring thing. But as a woman, I understand. And if they still want to get married in 2 yrs (the date they set) then they have my blessings...
I think its just love.....All the best to you. There is nothing wrong with you dear....wait until later when you suddenly start getting "mommy" urges...its the darndest thing!!!
2007-03-17 08:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't think you're pushy, he doesn't think your pushy so where's the problem? Maybe for now start looking at promise rings. Engagement is fine, just don't rush into a marriage. I was engaged, there is something very liberating about being able to make future plans, to tell everyone he's 'the one'. I can completely understand.
2007-03-17 03:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by arzachel81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's in cases like this in which you must trust your boyfriend. He says you're not being pushy, so you have to let yourself believe it. I'm assuming you're in high school, so even if you want to get engaged, don't go through with it to college; we don't need more people applying for Engaged & Underage. You clearly love this boy, and he loves you too, but for now, let that be enough and just let it lie.
2007-03-17 03:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by stolenXsolace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u should listen to ur boyfriend. u are not being pushy at all. but marriage is not something u can decide such a hurry. calm down, and try to enjoy ur relationship. u sound so afraid of losing him. relax and trust ur boyfriend. u are still very young. dont make something that u will regret it. wish the best for u. take care.
2007-03-17 03:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and in love, so it would be natural to want to be engaged, dreaming about marriage etc. You are probably caught up in the "romance." Calm down and enjoy. I hope he is the love of your life, if he is it will happen. If not it will happen again. Good luck.
2007-03-17 03:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by Loreli S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with getting engaged, it's marriage you don't want to rush into.
2007-03-17 03:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by MAK 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone wants to find their prince charming. he has let you know he wants to marry you so please just think about getting through school. if will happen before you know it. every girl dreams of her wedding day and it is ok just keep it to yourself and quit bringing the subject up.
2007-03-17 03:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Watch it, and hold your tongue, or you might scare im away. You are way too young yet.
2007-03-17 08:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋