He in the airforce he said he wants to forcus on school. and he going to iraq just isnt going to work out. so does that mean when he gets back he wants back with me. Or he never wants to see me again
I dont know what to do cause i love him and he said he loved me
Amie
2007-03-16 20:08:17 · 20 answers · asked by amieblueangel81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably doesn't want to be tied down right now. He's right, the Military is very demanding of time and when he is in Iraq he will probably be stationed with other females on the base. I've seen a lot of guys cheat on their wives and girlfriends, don't put yourself through the trouble. When he comes back if he is interested then go for it from there.
2007-03-16 20:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by zeonchar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he wants to focus on school and go back to Iraq, doesn't mean he wants to break up with you. You should talk to him and ask him to be direct. Tell him how you feel and make him understand. Ask him what he wants as well and tell him what you want. Make plans and make compromise with each other. You can't really know for sure what he wants or what he plans to do if you guys don't talk, so best thing not to do is assume.
2007-03-16 20:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and don't let your feelings get in the way of keeping his friendship. His probably just concerned of what could happen to him over there and wants to make sure his focus on what will keep him alive and well. Sound a bit harsh but that's what these people have to do. Plus some of them don't want to keep someone holding on until they get back, just in case. Their trying to be considerate. I'm sure when the time comes for him to leave, he'll probably ask you to e-mail him or you could tell him you would like to e-mail him as friends if that's alright with him. But until you know for sure don't get your hopes up that this will help you keep him and he'll come back to you when he returns home. He may still want to stay single, so go into this with that in mind. Don't set yourself up to be hurt. And only e-mail him if he wants you to and by being just friends till he says different.
2007-03-16 20:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me, the key words he used are "just isnt going to work out". meaning that the relationship isnt going to work out. sorry but it seems it is over. love is a great thing, it is also a horrible thing. it can cause so much happiness, and it can cause so much hurt. when it causes hurt, all that will heal it is time. better to know 6 months into it that hes not the right guy. good luck finding the right one.
2007-03-16 20:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him focus then. Sometimes you have to understand where the other is coming from. At least he is being honest and realizing he need to make his life better. Stop focusing on how much you think you love him and focus on getting yourself right too.
2007-03-16 20:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months... it may seem like a long time but it's really not. i recomend you focus on school and work and before he leaves for iraq he'll more than likely call you. however, he may not want you to wait for him if he does deploy to iraq. occupy yourself in the meantime. excercise, work, read, go out with friends, etc. go on a date or two.
2007-03-16 20:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by Nini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a *****. This is a cop out way. Of breaking up with you. Don't get me wrong education is important. It's just mighty damn funny.. That he can just throw it all away. With not even a second thought it seems.
2007-03-16 20:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by andelagdn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he loved you, back when life was a hobby. Now he is having to focus on his education and getting in the right frame of mind for everything he will have to face in a war zone.
Move on.
2007-03-16 20:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may call ya when he gets back or he may meet an Iraqie hottie. Who cares. Life is unpredictable. Find someone else.
2007-03-16 20:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by bigpumpdaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let things be. wait and see what will happen. meanwhile, live your life as you want it to be lived. write to him while he is away so that you still have communications with each other. maybe he really wants to have his life lived also. you have your ambitions, right? why not reach for it?
2007-03-16 20:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋