I just lost my one year old relationship, because I said no to her plans, for a while I always said yes, but it got to a point I had to say no, and suggest another solution to try to satisfy the two of us, she got upset, tried to convince me to do her plan, I kept saying no, and gave the reasons of that "I have the weekend loaded of work from school, sorry I can't, we can do something less time demanding, and in another weekend, do that" We are both on our early 30s. By the end of the weekend, I was single.
What I would like to know, is what's wrong on sometimes give no as an answer, specially when you have important reasons. do women only like guys that give yes all the time as an answer?. what's wrong with me that I am just not a pleaser and I just do what I can?.
2007-03-16 20:06:20 · 5 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
theres nothing wrong with the answer NO! its your life dont let anyone tell you what your gonna do! since she doesnt like it thats her problem not yours. quit feeling like its your problem!
2007-03-16 20:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by declaar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would venture to say that there was more wrong with the relationsip from her perspective than you said no.
It could have been how you said it, but from the way you describe it what you did say was completley reasonable...as long as it wasn't something extremely important to her like a family funeral or a sisters wedding etc.
So, that leaves that she is a control freak trying to manipulate you with the breakup, spoiled, or the relationshp was not working for her.
No matter what reason she had to end it it sounds like you are better off.
Good luck, HTH
2007-03-16 20:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds kind of selfish to me. If you wanted to blow off your plans to hang out with you guy friends or something like that I could understand her being a little upset, but not enough to end a 1 yr relationship. Maybe if blowing off her plans was aconstant thing I would understand. Any women who can't understand that you have to catch up on school work, it clearly not supportive of you furthering your career. She needs to grow up, at her age she should understand that.
2007-03-16 20:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing wrong with you is you kept agreeing with her until this. Saying 'yes' all the time is just spoiling her. And she probably is spoiled because she's not used to disagreement. The breakup wasn't your fault, it was hers for being so inflexible. Besides, you don't want to marry someone who always wants her way.
2007-03-16 20:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have been yourself from the beginning of the relationship.
She wasn't used to receiving a negative answer from you, so when you gave it to her at last, the poor thing couldn't take it.
If you wait a few more days, and maybe just call her once, she just might change her mind. You could tell her that you expect her to be your woman, not your child. That will drive the point home to her!
2007-03-16 20:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Latina 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋