My partner went out 2nite & initially we worked out that he'd take the cash i had in my wallet - we later changed our minds - he'd take my card instead and leave the cash so i could get takeout for dinner.
He promised that he'd keep his phone on & it should have just enough battery for the night. (i'm 38wks) hes been gone bout two hours & I drove into town to get take out through the drive through. On the way i opened my wallet to find there was neither the cash or credit card - intentionally or not, he has both.
When I was in the drive through queue I realised and told the drivethru clerk the mistake & that i'd just drive straight thru when i cud. About five minutes later they came out and clamped my car and accused me of trying to get free food. A crowd gathered and I was *extremly* embarrased and in tears while it got worked out
I called him afterwards to try to get the money back - but his phone is off. I feel so angry that he wasn't there when i needed him. Am I overreacting?
2007-03-16 19:55:13 · 5 answers · asked by priestessofthepixels 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mainly feel angry at him for the phone incident, that he wasn't there when I needed him, and if I did - or have gone into labor, I'd find it impossibble to find him. I don't know what to say or do.
2007-03-16 19:59:22 · update #1
First, why is he taking your cash and your card? I hope this doesn't mean that you are supporting him - if so, then the problem runs much deeper than tonight.
No, you are not overreacting. You are pregnant, home alone with no means to get cash for emergencies and no way to contact your partner. However, for the sake of your health and your baby's health - try to remain calm. If this is a symptom of a problematic relationship (lack of respect, etc.), then it will have to wait to be properly dealt with until after your baby is born. In the meantime, contact a close friend or family member and ask them to come over and let you vent.
Good luck.
2007-03-16 20:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by TokyoBelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. For now assume the best. Ask what happened and let him explain. If the behavior repeats, then you have a problem. Tell him how important it is that he leaves his phone on, and if he's in a place where he needs to turn it off or can't hear it at least text you to give you the heads up.
2007-03-17 03:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by arzachel81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should jump to accuse him of taking both on purpose. i think the folks at the drive thru over-reacted for sure! go inside that place and through a huge fit and let the public know what they do to people who have made a simple mistake in ordering before checking their cash, i bet most people assume they know how much they have and this happens more often than you think. anyway, surely your man didn't do that to you on purpose.
2007-03-17 03:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by heather l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're not overreacting! He took the cash and the card without thinking of you first? I'm so sorry you had to go through something like that tonight. You definitely have to talk to him when he comes home.
2007-03-17 03:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by california girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he purposely did that...how come he took your card and cash while he know you going to have a dinner?he just think about himself.
2007-03-17 03:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by castle girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋