My friend wrote a letter I think is mushy. He got help and a shorter letter. Which one should he use?

Question

The first letter is what he wrote at first. He don't know if it would work and I told him it make him look weak. The second letter came from someone who shortened it for him, and I like it and I think it would work but problem is he ain't wrote it. Which should he use? Here they is:

Hey. How are you? You know, ever since we stopped talking, (we haven't talked for 10 months) I had been going over everything in my head, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. You know, I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. It was because of you that I started working on those things. I know you probably still don't want to talk to me. It's just that a special girl like you is hard to find, you're unlike any friend I've ever had. No other girl is as amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, and beautiful as you. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad, or your bright smile. There was a time when I was feeling down that you could tell something was wrong because you know me. I'm the same way about you. I know you think I don't know you, and I know I don't know everything about you, but I want to know everything about you. I really care about you and like I

said, you're special to me. I'm tired of playing silly games around you, trying to act like you're not when you really are. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid for not understanding then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you.
I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, it's alot worse. For the things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened and if necessary forget that there was any mention of romantic interest between us. I know with you I don't have a chance. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you. (END) (continues If sent in a letter) If writing this to you makes how you feel about me worse, then if you'd like to, just forget that I wrote it.

If what you want is to never see me or speak to me again, I will just try to let you go just because I only want to make you happy. (END)
Here's the one he ain't wrote, but it's shorter and he don't seem whipped



Hey. How are you? You know, ever since we stopped talking, I realized how much I missed you. I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I've really grown and worked on things to improve my life. I'll understand if you still think you made the best decision by breaking up with me, but I know that a special girl like you is hard to find. I'm grateful that you know me better than anyone else. I know that we had our ups and downs, and I would really like to work on things and get to know you again. I think there is a lot that we can learn about one another. I will respect whatever decision you make. Take care.

Answer 1

I am a 21 year old female. i read all of your"option" letters. here is my reactions towards it. first one, would make me fall in love with you, and forgive you anything. It is sincere, detailed and romantic. Little details , like, your eyes look like .... when you smile, really brings the attention, because you notice those things. really, great letter. second one, i thought, what a jerk. Third one, ahh ok. It is nice, but is not very catchy. i would take my time, figuring out if you mean it, or just trying to play me. But, that's just me. In overall, why are you guys afraid of being mushy? or silly? Why do you think it makes us think:"oh, yeah,k he is whiped. ha ha."? WRONG!!! Those are the things that make us fall in love with you. do not be afraid to show your feelings,please. Because if you really feel they way that you described in first letter, why would you send me "the shorter version of it, not mushy one", so i would wonder, does he meant or not? in the long run, you are only making it hard for yourself, by confusing her, and taking a longer way to be happy. We do not take advantage of your "mushy" letters, we appreciate them, and open up to you. Last call is yours.

Answer 2

I am having some probblems following you,but I think I get the idea.You say that you have not had any close contact with this person in ten months?What have you been doing all this time?Have you been crying over her all this time?Perhaps you should have used your time to better use.You could have moved on with your life,you could have joined some social group where you will meet other girls.You need to know that love is not a game .You need to be honest with the person and yourself.Sometimes you don't know what you have until you loose it.So learn form your past mistakes..As to the short letter or the long letter it does'nt matter.Flip a coin! She will get the message !

Answer 3

The second letter is definitely better, but will she know it isn't his writing? This is not Cyrano De'Bergerac, and having someone rewrite his letter might only make her think he is lame.

See, if what bugged her was the way he mushed all over her, then his letter would let her know he hadn't really been able to change that part of himself. The second letter would lead her to believe that he was less mushy and possibly more mature.

So, depending on the reason she stopped seeing him, the second letter is better.

Answer 4

Both letters are fine. First letter is loving, moving, touching, sincere & genuine. Second letter is short & sweet, straight to the point.

It's difficult to choose. But I'll go with the first one. Because girls like real genuine stuff. She may end up being touched to tears and appreciate the 10-month of rework on him because of her. But if the girl has moved on, the second letter will be better.

Answer 5

I think it`s sweet, but most of my friends that are girls annoyed at stuff like that, only when they don`t like the guy. So, the short one might be better. It`s less sensitive, and it`s everything he said in the first place, only he wouldn`t seem so desperate.

Answer 6

for me, i prefer the first one.why? coz, 1) he wrote it himself and it came from his heart, every single thought of it, 2) it is what he really feels, all the emotions he felt is in there. if ever the girl that letter is for doesn't appreciate it, then she is not worth the trouble. for me, it doesn't have to be shorter and smarter, it only has to be true.got it?