my boyfriend just left and no one knows where he is?

Question

after dealing with tons of drama from my last relationship i was finally moving on and started seeing this guy. i really thought things were going great. about five days ago he took me out to a really nice dinner and a movie and we had a really great night. well the next day i got a call asking if i knew where he was because he never showed up for work. now im really confused on y he left and what to do. i really dont know how to deal. im so hurt and worried and angry. and i wish he would just calll or something...contact me somehow. but i just dont know....how do i move on? cuz i think that he is not gonna come back.....how do i deal?

ive talked to his family. he basically just packed all his stuff up and left. his family has filed him as a missing person. i still just dont know how to deal with it. im so hurt and its become all i can think about.

Answer 1

just take it one day at a time, don't blame yourself

Answer 2

If he never made it to work, I wouldn't be worried about moving on, I would be worried about him. If things where going really well and he gave you no clue as to why he left it probably isn't because of you. I personally would be unable to move on until I know what happened, I had this same thing going on, ,I was dating a guy and he just dropped off the face of the earth for a month, and then after that month he contacted me, which by that time I had got over him because I thought he was just being a jerk, it turned out that he fell in love with me and was scared, we didn't get back together but there might be a responsible reason, but I would call him, as I am sure that you have his phone number. I would also list him as a missing person, because he did miss work, and they called you.

Answer 3

if he loves you he will come back. If he don't he just lost the best thing he ever had... Look at it like that . You are beautiful inside and out. Your curves will be noticed by someone worth having. Then the next person will see what you have to offer inside your heart.. You might care 4 him but w/o respect you have nothing. if your relationship made a difference in his life... if you let him see a little bit of the special qualities you have ... he 'll know he had a good thing. If he doesn't come back then girl use it as a checkmark for another sign you don't want in a guy! Lots of desserts make you fat so when you r finished you know which ones not to eat!!!

Answer 4

My friend is STILL with a guy who takes off for days at a time w/o telling her where he is. She used to worry and call the hospitals and jails but I guess she just finally realized he's an asshole. She never left him so I assume she has just accepted it now but if I were her I would dump the bastard. If you are ok with this type of behavior then stay with him. I assure you if he did this intentionally he'll do it again. I know you're worried but hang in there, he'll show up, he just better have an explaination....

Answer 5

How long has he been your boyfriend? Maybe that dinner and movie was a goodbye. Check with his job to see if he's still alive and well, if he is, then just delete his number from your phones, because he's not gonna do that to someone he has genuine feelings for.

If his job hasn't seen him, and he's not returning anyone's calls, file a missing person's report with your local police department. Then at least you know that you've done everything you could to be a loyal friend.

Good luck!

Answer 6

There may be some bigger issue here. It probably has absolutely nothing to do with you at all. He may be sick, he may be hurt, he ma have had some family trauma which has shocked him and he hasn't thought to call you. The last option may be that he has lied to you and is actually involved with someone else. Good luck and hope you find out soon.

Answer 7

i kind of had asimilar situation. my boyfriend of three years finally proposed to me and theings were going great. we were talking about a family and everything. well two weeks after he proposed to me he just up and left. i didnt know what happened to him. i later found out that he moved about two hundred miles away with another woman.(yeah that hurt) but i just had to go on. i talked to his family for a little while to find out what he did. then i just moved on. i cryed a lot. and wondered if i would ever be able to trust another guy again. my pain eventually went away and i found somebody else. i would just try and figure out where he went. try and talk to his family and then move on. i eventually talked to my ex again and he explained that it would have just hurt him to much to tell me so he took the easy way out. he was a coward. and he admitted it. but i hope you figure things out and good luck. things will eventually be okay.

Answer 8

if he has vanished and is not at his home and nobody can find him the authoritys need to be notified. he could be hurt somewhere or in danger. if he has some type of mental illness he could be confused and wandered off. if you know his family call them. call his work and see if they can contact his family from his job application, tell them you are worried, especially if he is not at his home.

Answer 9

My fiance is constantly going AWOL to "clear his mind." You have two choices: worry about it till you are a wreck or just keep yourself busy. Although I try to keep myself busy, it never works and I make myself worry. The one time I didn't worry, something bad did happen. It's a double edge sword in my opinion. It just sucks.

Answer 10

Report him as a missing person to the cops. Seriously-people don't just 'not show up for work' -think about it.

Answer 11

Are you sure he did not meet with foul play? Instead of feeling sorry for yourself at this time, make sure first that he went home and got home in one piece the night of your last date with him!