Do Older Men Like Younger Women?

Question

I have a thing for an older man at my work who is nearly twice my age and even though he has been divorced for a couple of years now, he doesn't really seem overly interested in me. I have shown him I was interested and he has been friendly, but I wouldn't say he has taken it beyond the bounds of friendship.

Is it a problem with my age perhaps? I was always under the impression that older men liked dating young women, am I wrong? Does he perhaps view me as being too immature for him or think that we would have nothing in common? I am asking just so I can get an idea if there are any relationships out there have worked with this kind of situation.

Just so people have an idea of the age difference, I am 25 and he is 47. This is the first time I've ever considered dating anyone that old, and honestly I don't expect it to work out long term due to the ages.

I also wanted to add that he's talked to me a couple of times about his ex-wife who left him and he still seems pretty apathetic over the whole situation, maybe he just isn't ready?

You know what? I just want to sleep with him, not have a long-term relationship.

Answer 1

Of course older men like younger women. But, they may not be attracted to someone so young that they might be perceived as a "girl". There is something rather troubling about that for must of us guys. You don't mention what the ages actually are, so it's hard to make a determination about that.

But, if you have made moves and he has responded with only friendliness, I wouldn't push it. If he has children and/or the breakup was particularly traumatic, it may take him a long time to get to a point of being attracted to anyone.

You may be attracted more to the challenge of getting the older man to respond to your advances than to the older man himself - have you considered that? It would be too bad if you actually got his attention and then got bored with him or found out that you were only interested in the chase and not a real relationship.

Wide disparities in age are usually not conducive to meaningful or lasting relationships. It's probably better to date someone nearer to your age.

Answer 2

Usually the older guys that like dating much younger women are kind of creepy. Healthy relationships involve dating someone you have alot in common with and see as your equal. As men twice your age are clearly in a different position in life, the healthy ones assume they'd want to date someone their own age, unless knowing you well makes you an exception.

If it's really going to work you have to have alot in common with him and become genuine friends with him first anyways. If he was attracted to you even though you're half his age without actually knowing you very well as a person, it would mean he was kind of dirty or creepy so you probably wouldn't really want that.

Answer 3

I think our society does place a lot of emphasis on younger, thinner, and cuter is better. I am guilty myself of looking at a tight-bodied lass and having carnal thoughts. But I believe it's mostly of a personal preference.
I've observed that women don't place emphasis on these same values of weight, looks, or age as a whole as men do. Hell, look at what porn movies project to us. When was the last time you saw one with a fat chick in it?
Seriously, ask yourself why you are attracted to him. My wife is 10 years older than me. Love and attraction almost never hold no boudaries to age.
Keep placing yourself in a position to be in his viewfinder if you want his attention -- but don't go overboard. It's true he may not be over his former relationship or even ready for another one.. Go slow, be kind, be yourself, and DON'T EVER be afraid of loss. There will ALWAYS be another. Good luck. M-

Answer 4

I went out with a (much) younger woman from work once, and despite all the gossip and snide remarks it went well for a while; however it didn't last, mainly because of lack of shared interests caused by the age gap. But good luck anyway

Answer 5

There are many that have worked out and even more that didn't. Of course many similar age relationships don't work out either. It would actually depend upon your age at this time more so than the difference.

Answer 6

I am in my mid 30's and I date early 20 somethings all the time...age is a number

Answer 7

I've dated much younger women........it can be a good time or it can fail ........it depends on the people involved... men who have been married and divorced have a reflective aspect to dating younger women.........sometimes they just can't connect...or relate............good luv, good luck

Answer 8

age aint nothing but a number. if you truly like him and wont be embarassed by his rejection... then i suggest you shove him into a corner and ask him out. if you dont like that just tell him to tell you why he hasnt asked you out yet? sweet talk him and see what happens

Answer 9

well i date younger men now i know why !!!