I am a virgin and my girlfriend has had sex. How do I bring up that I would like her to get tested for STDs before we have sex, with out her being offended.
2007-03-16 19:19:02 · 15 answers · asked by sykocase247 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her that you are very attracted to her and that you can't wait to make love but you think it's best that you BOTH got tested for STDs because you never know where your ex-lovers have been and you want to start your relationship out on the right track.
2007-03-16 19:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be using a condom anyway, but ask her to go with you and get tested together. If she refuses, then don't have sex with her. Simple. Easy.
Your life is worth more than loosing your virginity. STDs are one thing, but AIDS is awful - I've watched too many people (family included) die from it and as a result I ask all my partners to go get tested with me. If they say no, I don't have sex with them. It's that clear and defined for me.
2007-03-16 19:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Aileen C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you care about her a lot and you want to take stuff to the next step, but you'd feel a lot more comfortable with the situation if she'd get tested. If she says no, then you shouldn't be sleeping with her. DO NOT have sex with her until you know you won't get anything.
2007-03-16 19:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kaybala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STDs is a big deal...bring it up simply like that "*****, i want you to get tested first"
some people dont even know if they have anything....there are cases of chlamydia that it doesnt show up in a person who got it from someone but can give it to someone else! i had a friend like that.
its a serious situation...tell her you're not comfortable sticking your penis into her without being sure she is clean!
2007-03-16 19:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by xyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her say something like hey sugar i would like to take our relationship to the next level i think i am ready to be with you intimately but before we can move to this next step please can we both get tested? even if you are a virgin u can still get tested. And if she say like you don't trust me just say i think we both would feel more comfortable if we got the test together. Good luck with that.
2007-03-16 19:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by mo1979ca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get tested together...just say it is for both of your protection. That is awesome that you are even thinking about that, by the way. Always use protection regardless...you probably don't need a kid if it is your first time. That would suck! Good luck man...and good looking out for yourself...that is responsible and respectable!
2007-03-16 19:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
better for her to get offended than for you to get an STD. Just talk to her about your concerns and tell her you need to see the tests, not because you dont trudt her, but because you value your life.
2007-03-16 19:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by wisv2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this the single you're looking for for?. Abu Ayyub Ansari suggested that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) suggested: in case you've been now to not dedicate sins, Allah may have swept you out of existence and may have replaced you by ability of yet another those who've dedicated sin, and then requested forgiveness from Allah, and He may have granted them pardon. (e book #037, Hadith #6621)
2016-12-02 03:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest you both go together and be tested. There are ways other than sex to become infected.
2007-03-16 19:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by dano 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say it-this is , quite frankly something I did also. If someone doesn't like being asked -then they're not the right person for you.
2007-03-16 19:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋