-fist fighting and screaming over video games? should I jump up and haul them off to bed? should I spank? stick them in corners or take away t.v. and video game privaleges? what would you have done?
2007-03-16 19:16:33 · 16 answers · asked by fe2bsho 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Remain calm. Say something like "awww it's a shame that the evil _ ___(fill in the blank) has caused you guys to fight like this. Then have a mini-court session. Where both sides present you with their case (in a calm fashion or not at all)and you make a judgement on it.
I'm not against spanking, I would just reserve it for when they hurt each other, a possesion, or a pet deliberately. Punishment to be carried out at the end of the session.
This will make the kids handle their emotions much better. Speak to you a fashion that makes it less frustrating. And....gives them important life skills for school, work, and life in general.
Good luck, and remember keep your cool don't get mad, and don't laugh at them (this stuff is important to them)
2007-03-16 19:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by manywarhoops 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have three boys ( 9, 6 & 2) that use to fight all the time. I got a chart and put their names on it and got a whole bunch of stickers. Everytime i caught one of them fighting or hitting i took away an electronic or some kind of toy. i know my boys are big on the gameboys and stuff, but whatever your kids are into, take it away and put it somewhere where they can see it but can't reach it. In order to get that toy back, they needed to get 5 stickers, 1 sticker for every time they helped one of their brothers. At first this didnt work and i went as far as taking almost all of their toys and unplugging all the televisions in the house. They got it then that i was serious and it took them a good week and a half or so to get all their toys back. The boys rarely do anything to eachother now. If you decide to do this, make sure to follow through or they'll see right through you. Good luck!
2007-03-17 12:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit them down and talk to them calmly. Explain that fighting, yelling, using fists is not a good way to solve the problem. That if they can't agree, they come to Mommy or Daddy to help them solve the conflict. Then you suggest a reasonable solution, that they each take turns. Once they understand this, you tell them that you are taking away the video player and games for one week, and you send each child to their room to read or play quietly on their own. DO NOT CAVE on the video games, as much as YOU want to, don't do it. AND remind them WHY they lost their priveledges. Anytime more than one kids is fighting over something, I take it away. I don't try to figure out who was right, that's a waste of time, and your kids will only play you. Simple, take it away for an appropriate amount of time, and remember to tell/show them how to resolve their disagreements more diplomatically.
2007-03-17 00:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you must be utterly exhausted, firstly to fall asleep after reading to them, and secondly to sleep thru the fighting and screaming - get more rest if you can, to prevent this happening again. They found unexpected total freedom when you fell asleep and took advantage of it big time! I would definately have sent them to bed and removed tv/game for a few days, but not without some guilt on my part - if I fell alsleep, it was partially my fault!
Good luck
Jx
2007-03-17 09:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by kirroyale3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids will take advantage if they are allowed. Anger doesn't work and just escalates things. Calmly, as difficult as this is, explain to them that the games are a privilege and will be taken away if abused. Clear guidlines and make sure you follow through without humuliating them. Just give them the chance to show you how smart they really are. It takes patience and a whole lot of love. Good luck!
2007-03-16 21:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by lucky1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is a problem remove the problem!
If the kids are fighting over something specific such as a video game or toy, it gets taken away. Usually only a day or two for the first offense.Then it gets longer if they would do it again.
The fighting over the game console between my brothers got so bad my parents sold off the game system and games!
2007-03-16 19:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by nicholettejohnson 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I carry the toddler up somewhat as quickly as I feed her and if she falls asleep I circulate the bottle around in basic terms somewhat and twirl it and he or she'll shop sucking yet nevertheless be in that state of delirium, after she finishes the bottle I swipe it out for a pacifier, if she's totally asleep she wont take it, if no longer she will have the skill to and spit it out as quickly as she's asleep, and then i attempt to be as gentle as attainable in moving her to the crib.
2016-10-02 06:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give enough info. How old are they? Were they suppose to be going to bed? Why did you fall asleep and leave them unattended?
With the info you gave I would have walked over without a word shut the game off and sent them to their rooms. You don't have to yell or scream they know what they are doing.
2007-03-17 01:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have separated them and gotten each side of the story and then went from there. If it was bad enough, yes they would have gone to bed. I'm mom to 3.
2007-03-17 02:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. turn off the video game..
2. stick them both into a room and lock the door...let them sort it out by themselves...
I think that's punishment enough...being stuck in a room with your enemy lol...
hehhee I try not to be the umpire...if they have a problem with each other they need to fix it..:)
2007-03-16 23:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by dewdrops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋