well i had my friend send him an email on myspace telling him how i felt about him and that i've liked him ever since the summer when we really started talking, (and he did too) and then a semester went by and we noticed each other but nevr said a word because we each thought that we didnt want to see each other or were just ignoring each other, and then the second semester of school starts, and i walk by him and his eyes light up, and he gets this big smile on his face and he goes, "LAUREN!!!" and gives me this big hug for like five minutes and tells me that i look great and then i tell him that i missed him, and he has his face buried in my shoulder and he goes, i missed you too ---- but anyways, i sent him the email and he hasnt been on since march 2nd and my friend sent it to him on march 8th, and he still hasnt been on and im wondering if i should just tell him in person, but 2 promblems. 1) i dont want him to feel obligated 2) i dont want him to feel sry for me and say yes.
2007-03-16 19:12:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so what should i do? Im so scared to confront him and tell him, or maybe i should just tell him to get on myspace and read my email so there will be no regrets and no obligations. emails are always easier to say things that you cant say in person ya know???
2007-03-16 19:13:49 · update #1
p.s. im really afraid of being shut down or played because he doesnt feel the same.
2007-03-16 19:32:12 · update #2
p.s.s - im not allowed on myspace, thats why.
2007-03-16 20:12:49 · update #3
ok i have been here before!
i wouldnt tell him in person. maybe a text message or instant message. because it will give him time to think of how to respond and he wont feel obligated. i wouldnt go into great detail about how long you've liked him etc... until you know if he likes you back. the best advice i could give is act like its no big deal...simply send this to him through a text message or IM "i like you"....its simple and its to the point, its not like you're gonna get too embarassed with just 3 words, and it wont reveal anything you wouldnt want him to know if he does turn you down (like how long youve liked him or how much).
which if he does, i know you will feel horrible but dont show it. just be like "okay, well its just how i felt so i thought you should know but no biggie being friends is cool"
also, dont get too bummed out if he does turn you down, because there will be someone who has everything you liked in that guy and more one day who will like you in return! but keep positive he could be the one and also keep in mind that 'the one' will never turn you down.
i hope this helped some and i hope everything works out! good luck! =)
2007-03-16 19:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by shelly m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off why is your friend doing your work for you. If you want the guy you got to be the one to jump through the hoops....not her. Second, e-mails have their place but they are very impersonal on a subject like this that is sooooo personal don't you think? Thirdly, if he had that kind of response to you when school started, then why are you second guessing whether he is interested...lets see...I think you said his face lit up...he hugged you for a long time...he told you he missed you...damn girl what else do you want?...Ohhhh yess I know what you want....and I don't blame you...he is the guy so why isn't he making the move....great question and I think I know the answer. They should make the move but for some dumb reason in today's world they don't always even though they are interested. So that leaves you...so whats it going to be....call him up or run into at school and let him know or are you going to wait on him. I know what I would do if I was interested in someone and I had all the signs that they liked me too. Ya just don't get anywhere unless you sometimes just risk it......Good Luck!
2007-03-16 19:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens if you never tell him straight up and then the chance never comes again? Don't you think you might regret it for the rest of your life. Even if it means that you might get hurt, take the chance and be honest, then you will never have to wonder WHAT IF?
If you tell him how you feel for him , also state that you do not want pity and that you would like to know exactly how he feels about you . Tell him it is okay if he does not return your feelings and that he should not feel obligated to lie, to make you feel better. This way , you get an answer either ways , and you can still hold your head up and move on with your life without pining for unrequited love.
2007-03-16 19:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt its easier to admit all of that on myspace, but theres something special about hearing the truth in person. You shouldnt go after whats easiest but what will make him understand how you feel about him. sure an email can do that but it doesnt have that physical side and you wont be able to see his reaction. I think its best for you to tell him. youre going to be super nervous but in the end it will all be worth it. k? have fu.
2007-03-16 19:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by Violet J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, from a guy, about a guy. If you have the option to tell him face to face, Do That. Most fellers are too one tracked minded to catch on to subtle hints. Lay it out on the line. Using the internet to meet new people is one thing, using the internet to meet people you know is, well, silly. Having your friend send a note on My Space, weak. As to your two problems, don't worry about it, if its meant to be it will be, otherwise, you are better off without him. Hope it helps
2007-03-16 19:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by I'm Not Lost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think in person, but before i say wait a few more days and then i think you should confront him, you dont have to worry about him not liking you, because from what you described it sounds like he really likes you. even if he didnt like you i think he would tell you, so dont worry about him feeling obligated or him feeling sry for ya
2007-03-16 19:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 5 years....the "me" today would tell you to just tell him in person..but the "me" 4 years ago would say to write him a letter and just give it to him in person so YOU know HE reads it...
2007-03-16 19:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie80876 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh, you stated they have been stranded on the island. the region did the bridge come from?! in the event that they have been given right here to the island on a bridge, they does now no longer be stranded. And that must be an prolonged bridge! regardless of the undeniable fact that it grew to become humorous, in a manner, inspite of the undeniable fact that.
2016-12-18 15:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him what you feel IN PERSON. I'm that he's also into you. Just follow your heart and things will be alright.
2007-03-16 19:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by xuxs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so far neiyher of you have spoken your hearts out,bring in a situation with the help of some common friends and open out.don't hide,you gain nothing.
2007-03-16 20:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋