what can i do to stop my parents from fighting?

Question

they start fighting about every 2 weeks. my dad gets violent and starts throwing things everywhere. my mom starts crying loudly. theyve been fighting about the same thing since i was 4 years old. but lately, they been fighting a lot and i just want to run away. what should i do?

Answer 1

first of all - this is a potentially dangerous situation that needs professional attention
second- it is not your fault...this is your parent's issue,but intervention is needed
talk to someone- another family member, pastor,etc. ask them for help as to what to do- next time there is a violent fight call the police- this will be hard,i know(your parents may be arrested)- but ultimately this will help the situation, one day an argument may go to far and something terrible could happen....sit down and talk with your parents..tell them how you feel..if you don't feel safe in your home...stay at a friend's house.. your parents need help immediately...good luck sweetie

Answer 2

Next time they are fighting call the police or tell a teacher at school. You need to realize you are in a domestic violence relationship and things have been escalating and may get worse. You running away is not going to help the problem. Do you want to become like either of them a batterer or a victim. Some people don't learn until they hit bottom.

Answer 3

Dont run away!! Just finish your school and go to your room and cover your ears everytime they fight. Its not your fault they are fighting. It is really VERY HARD to raise parents nowadays. tsk tsk. Trust me!! There are many reasons that parents fight and they are very much adult already to think mature things and settle their own problem. My parents have been fighting violently when i was in high school too. I just finish my studies and get my bachelor degree. Then you can go on your own and find work!!! My brother didn't think wisely and only finish high school, got into drugs once and can't find a decent job so he is basically stuck at home with my parents. You dont want that to happen to you! Just think wisely. I know its hard because you are emotionally and psychologically bothered since they are your parents but just try your best. Goodluck!!

Answer 4

You don't say how old you are but really there isn't anything you can do to stop them from fighting. Don't run away. That won't help much. It might do some good to tell one of your parents that you can't take this anymore. Tell the one you trust the most or that you are closest to. Good luck to you. I hope things get better soon.

Answer 5

Next time the fighting starts, and violence starts, call the cops asap. You and your mom don't need to put up with this. If need be, instead of running away from home, sit down and have a tlak with your mom and let her know if this continues, you might ask to go to foster care, where you will be safe. You want her to be safe too, and will go with her when she leaves your dad--soon or even right away. I wish you the best. Take care.

Answer 6

there is nothing you can do to stop it. the best thing to do is secretly call a shelter for you and your mother and any other siblings or pets to stay with. of course discuss this with your mother. she might be afraid to leave but help convince her that she is wasting her life by staying in this unhealthy relationship. by running away you would only be causing more grief for your mom and you would be leaving her alone with an abusive man. i suggest finding a place to go when the fighting gets bad (a friends house). and dont be afraid to call 911 if the fighting gets bad. my suggestion is GET OUT OF THERE because you COULD GET HURT. help your mom and help you and find a place that is safe and healthy to live in. good luck!

Answer 7

there isnt much you can do about it to be honest.. but yeah if ur dad's hittin ur mum or you then you must call the cops !! if theyre just arguing loud and fightin like animals i know for a fact how emotionally horrible it must be for u... id suggest you start ignorin their fights and dont let it effect u too much.... u have to learn to be independant rite now itself cause obviously ur folks dont give a crap and are being totally selfish !!!howwever if u feel it'll help just sit with em and talk to them .. tell them how this is effecting u and if they dont stop its very possible youre entire life is gonna be effected by this !! but hey when do parents listen huh... so for now u need to start beign strong and not dependin on em to make u feel better bout anythin... infact work harder in watever u do so u can make somethin good of urself and move out as soon as u can !!! ur the only one for u !!! dont let anyone not even ur parents decide ur entire life for u !!

Answer 8

pray for them and just put everything in God's hand. I've been through lots more hell than what you've been experiencing, and here I am still here in this world and very much alive and well. =D Just keep believing in God and mind you that the life we're living now is just temporary. If you do good now and even though you're 'suffering' at this moment of time, just think about the reward you'll get later in heaven; the reward that will last for eternity. :) tell your parents about this.

Answer 9

If they are fighting about you stop pitting your parents against each other.

If it's personal...meaning nothing to do with you then don't take my advice the wrong way... and here it is ~mind your own business. What I just wrote can be a positive solution if you have nothing -absolutely nothing- to do with the arguing between your parents.

Answer 10

Sit down and talk to them. Tell them this "If you guys continue to fight, i'll run away from home!" I guess they'll stop. But plkease do talk to them. Hope things between your parents gets better! =)