I have this TA for two of my classes and I really am attracted to him; however, it is not in that dirty "I want to sleep with him to get a good grade" way. I actually think he is an interesting person but I am afraid he will think I am weird or a skank. I am making A's in both the classes and I mostly understand the material, so I do not really have any real questions to ask him about class and I don't want to play dumb just to talk to him. I think he might be attracted to me too because, as lame and delusional as it sounds, I feel like we have some weird connection... (he has my favorite photograph tattooed on his arm… a really strange coincidence) ...Sometimes I think he notices me or is looking at me, but that is probably just my wishful thinking (both classes are 200-300 people each). I am really shy in general and I already have a hard time talking to guys who aren't "off limits." I just want to know how I should approach him and attract his attention.
2007-03-16 19:08:56 · 6 answers · asked by Sara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well.. let me help you.. first of all he wont think your with him to blackmail him into giving yo good grades.. cause you just said you have "A's" in both classes.. and no dont play dumb thats highschool.. this guy is smart and ready to settle down.. and sounds like you are too... i think first you need to get him at a time when he isnt buzy to small talk.. you all ready have reasons to talk to him.. he's your teacher.. ask him anything it can be the way he feels about a certain subject in the class.. you dont have to ask for help cause he is a teacher.. if he has time to answer that question then you move in to get on a more personal level and talk about his tat.. i mean come on.. if that tatoo is of your most favorite picture then you have to have a reason for it being your favorite picture.. so tell him about that.. say something such as " i cant believe you ahve that tatooed on you?!" in a normal voice then state way you love it so much.." because that is my favorite photo" " ijust love bla bla bla" that would be where you put why.. then see how he reacts.. ask him "why did you choose this photo." and see if it is a similar response to what you said.. if so.. its good.. now you have something else in common beside class.. and thats what you should focus more on.. if you want a relationship.. is away from the classroom convorsations.. if he is short with you dont give up.. remember he has tons of students.. and he might be stressed with homework he has to grade and so on.. so just keep at it for awhile.. but know your limits.. at the end of the semester you should have some kind of outstanding relationship with him to talk about things other then school.. thats gold.. and use that to meet him somewhere outside the classroom.. if at most.. i dont know the class but maybe use the glass to get with him outside the class.. for example.. art.. ask about a good art gallery and if he wouldnt mind to show it to you.. and always ask him alone or at least where noone can hear it.. and make it casual talk.. if others hear about it whiile your his student that can mean big trouble for him.. it would have to be a hush hush relationship until you graduat that class.. and he might be waiting for that moment to get closer to you as well... anyways dont put to many obvious moves on him until your outside the classroom settings.. so like if you do get him out to an art gallery or where ever.. thats perfect timeing.. if your to shy to ask for it.. then the parking lot is about as far from the classroom as your going to get him.. im not joking either so that is where you should flirt.. maybe you'll park next to him.. humm.. well i wish i could help more.. but i just dont know enouph about the situation.. let me know how it goes.
and good luck
2007-03-24 14:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by Dr.Icebreaker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all wait till the end of the semester and then dont tell him that love him because then you will seem desperate. Go to him and ask him how he's doing and tell him that he was one of the best TA's you ever had and that you wish he still teaches you... In otherwords just get close to him as a friend and then see what happens because if you make a move during the semester you might be misenterpreted.
2007-03-24 17:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you HAVE to wait until he is no longer your TA. Dating a student who is in his class would be is a big no-no for any instructor. When you're done with the class is the time to go taool's oulk to him socially.
In the meantime, you will be spending your time finding out all you can about him, beginning with #1: Is he available? If he not available, then school's out on this one.
If he is available, then try to find out what he does in his spare time, so that when the time comes to talk with him, you'll know what to talk about.
2007-03-17 09:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 03:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and tell him how you feel . He wont be offended if your off track on this one --he'll be flattered- break away from the do's and dont's of society and follow your own instincts that you were born with. You owe that to yourself.
2007-03-24 16:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by tbasey3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like nike says, "Just do it!" He's a TA not your teacher. Tell him how you feel.
2007-03-24 09:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by dynamite_boy619 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋