My boyfriend and I have a very close relationship; we are each others best friends. Were in college and in a long-term/long-distance relationship. Recently I have taken up competitive ballroom dancing. My dance partner and I work well together and started winning competitions immediately. In the beginning I developed a little crush on him but it was short lived although, my dance partner is very attracted to me. He knows I have a boyfriend but that doesnt stop his efforts. I told my boyfriend about my crush, my partners crush, his frequent visits to my dorm and his attempts to take me out. I tell my boyfriend everything so he knows Im not hiding anything. But I know my boyfriend gets jealous when I talk to him about it. I want to stop hurting him and making him feel worried. Should I stop competitive ballroom dancing? I just want to make things better. I love my boyfriend too much to hurt him by staying near someone who obviously wants me and will try his best to get me. What do I do?
2007-03-16 18:55:35 · 13 answers · asked by dumdum4eva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont let him stop you from doing things you like. you can still practice with him maybe, but just not as much as usually...maybe cut it down and spend more time with your bf so that he knows you really love him and not ur partner. this is really personall and i haf no idea what you had in mind....my opinion is to cut down the practice but still compete. if thats your dream :) keep remminding yourself that your boyfriend is more important to you....constantly remind yourself that you cannot like ur partner..that way, you wont hurt ur bf
good luck...
2007-03-16 19:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, get a new dance partner, if he doesn't leave you alone, thats called stalking, and your boyfriend has every right to be concerned, tell him in no uncertain terms that you are not interested, you have a boyfriend, it is a serious relationship and if he doesn't leave you alone, you will be forced to look for another dance partner and or take out a restraining order against him, don't take this too lightly because he could be a maniac. Goodluck!
2007-03-16 19:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie's angel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your boyfriend to take dance classes and join you. i think you probably gave way too much info. your mistake was telling him you had a crush on your partner. i think you should keep dancing if you enjoy it. tell your partner firmly that you love your bf and that you do not want a personal relationship with him or you will have to find another partner. spend more time with your boyfriend and make sure he understands that your dance partner understands you are taken and he respects your relationship. stop going on and on about it and telling your bf every detail.
2007-03-16 19:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try making things absolutely clear with your dance partner, if that doesn't work try and keep the relationship more professional. As in ya'll are dance partners but have less social interaction. That should help the situation with your boyfriend, but don't stop dancing if you love it because that could brew later resentment in your relationship with your boyfriend.
Good luck!
2007-03-16 19:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by texas hearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two choices that come to mind. Talk to your teacher about getting a new partner or talk to him sternley about your boyfriend tell him that you are not interested at all tell him you would rathor him not visit you. Sounds like the first time you told him, he didn't get it. You were probably just too nice about it. Don't be so nice this time. Just keep with the no's!!! Not interested! But I would probably talk to the teacher first and see what they can do for you tell them he is hitting on you and you don't like it. If the teacher doesn't respect your wishes then you should't be being taught by them anyways!
2007-03-16 19:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by Gitana A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad that you have been honest with your boyfriend. but to stop the competitive ballroom has to be your choice to do, maybe you can ask for a different partner. and tell your partner what you are doing. and tell him that he is wasting his time because you will not leave your boyfriend. good luck.
2007-03-16 19:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a similar problem, but i'm a freshmen in highschool, and we go to diffrent schools. I have a friend, we're good friends and all but i don't think he likes me like that, niether do i, but my boyfriend is jealous. really jealous just a few hours ago we had a fight.... Anyways, it might be time to let go, but if you don't want to, then have him visit you on weekends or something. And don't quick your competitive ballroom dancing, esp if you love it. If he understands, then he should support you on that.
2007-03-16 19:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Gainy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should stop ballroom dancing if you have these kinds of "crushes" with someone you dance with it will be better for him and you. Or why can't you boyfriend join with you. maybe switch dance places. Good Luck!
2007-03-16 18:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize and promise to do your best to change. Think before you act or speak, you should be able to catch yourself before you do something mean. If you can't, then do him a favor and break up.
2016-03-29 02:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so selfish.
Still Wanna dance?
Find someone else
Boooooooo
2007-03-16 19:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by SongMaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋