why catholic are conservative?

Question

my son non catholic and a catholic girl loves each other for last six yrs since ther were in engg college.both want to marry and proposal was initaited three yrs back.parents of girl has not permitted.although mother of girl is from same religion from which is my son and she is converty to catholic now.girl has refuse to marry any other man .both are waitng for each other for the last 3 yrs.how the stalemate be solved

Answer 1

First of all, ALL Catholics are not conservative. I know plenty that are as liberal as anyone. You may as well say "Why are Americans conservative?" Some are. Some are not.

Second, there are two ways for the stalemate to be resolved. The couple can get married without the parents' permission. It is a free country. Or the boy can convert. Those are basically your only options. I presume if it has been 3 years that they have already tried talking to the parents. It likely is not going to help anyway. Either he converts, or they need to get married despite the parents. Or they are out of luck.

Third, odds are this is not really a religious matter at all. This is a matter of power and control. The parents have likely pretty much run the girl's affairs her whole life. They do not want to lose that power. Religion is their excuse, but considering how many Catholics marry non-catholics every day, is it obvious this is not the real issue. Until she learns to stand up for herself and take control of her own life, she is going to be pushed around and have her life run by someone for the rest of her days. Ultimately, the entire situation is up to HER.

Answer 2

Unfortunately alot of catholics are brought up to believe that they cannot marry outside their own faith. I think this boils down to the fact that we believe in the seven deadly sins and should we do anything bad we will end up in HELL which we were taught is a horrible place to spend eternity. Has your son considered converting to catholicism???? If the girls parents are really staunch catholics this might be the only way for them to get married. The only other option is that the girl ignores her parents and elopes with your son - but this is not advisable. Remeber that should he convert, this is a very big and scary decision so he should make the decision on his own and be very sure of the commitment he is making

Answer 3

Your son, if he wants to solve the problem, should consider converting. Is a conversion on either part out of the question?

Answer 4

Define conservative. I'm afraid most people have adopted
the definintion of liberal as "do what you want" and
conservatives have defined it "do what you want but
just don't get caught".

Your son's girlfriend places her religion above her love
for your son. If I were you, I would advise him to give
her a choice...her church or him. God created the family
first before organized religion was ever thought of.
Which is more important? Of course, it is his life.
But if he asked, that's what I'd tell him.

Answer 5

You do not need to convert to get married in a catholic church to a catholic girl. He just won't be allowed to take communion. I converted to Catholicism and both my husband and I left the Catholic church now for a non denominational church.

Answer 6

Her parents can't stop them from getting married. They need to sit down with her parents and say look, we are in love. We would like your blessing but if you cannot accept this marriage you are going to have to get over it because it's coming and it's coming soon.

Answer 7

Not sure where Northwest gets his information....but God did not create family to be before Him. We are warned not to enter a union where the parties are "unequally yoked". A believer and a non-believer are not equally yoked. Their spirits and their hearts desire are not the same. Its important for them to explore that first. I also agree, if they both wanted this marriage, it would have happened. Parents make suggestions not ultimatums....its way too late for them to ground her if she doesn't listen (lol) so there is probably more to this story....I'd say, let them be. Both sets of parents are way too involved.....

Answer 8

Your son and his girl need to grow up, grow a spine and start taking control of their own lives.

Answer 9

They should break up. If she is going to not marry this buy because he is a slightly different type of Christian, she obviously doesn't think much of him.

Answer 10

Sometimes it CANNOT be solved. Sometimes no one changes their mind. She has to be prepared to choose between her parents and your son.