Is it possible the father of my unborn child could come back to me?

Question

So I got pregnant, the parents of my ex-boyfirend wanted me to get an abortion.

I refused to get one, now they are all hate and refuse to talk to me because I've ruined his college life.

In the past my exboyfirend/father of my new unborn baby has been very loving, sopportive, and sweet towards me.

It is very unlike his nature for him to behave in such a crule & unsesative way by ingnoring me for not geting an abortion.

In the begining we discussed adoption together and he was in agreement with it so long as his paretns didn't find out.

His step mother found out and told everyone in his family. Thats when the **** hit the fan!

I didn't know what to do and thats when the subject of "it's abortion or I wouldn't ever be able to talk to Him agian"

Because he used to remind me 20 times a day that he loved and he used to help me with my every need.

Do you think it's possible it could just be his parents? Do you think he'll turn around and come back?

Answer 1

too complicated,if you want him, you have to abort and if you abort you kill thats equal to murder.i did once and i repent all my life.i neither got my love nor my kid.its up to you to decide.sorry for complicating more,just wanted tosay what i felt .may be he is doing this bcuz of his parents.i hope he comes back to you and will pray for you .

Answer 2

I think adoption is your best option. He obviously isn't going to be a good father for this child. Anyone that could be so irresonsible as to turn on your for something that he had a part in is just an all around lame guy. Why should his parents and he get mad at YOU for something that he was equally responsible for. They shouldn't get mad at you for not getting an abortion, because guess what? It's YOUR uterus. YOU have the right to choose what happens there and you shouldn't let them make you feel guilty. I don't see how you're the one to ruin his college life when he was equally responsible for you getting pregnant. If he's not mature enough to have a child, he shouldn't have been having sex (same with you).

As for his character change...sometimes a guy's true colors aren't revealed until he's in a situation where he has to admit a mistake and take responsibility. He may have been good to you before, but now you see that he's really like. He apparently only loved you as long as you didn't hold him back in any way, like a baby. He's a jerk and a pathetic, spineless weakling who's scared of his parents. Even if he does ever come back, you shouldn't take him back. You deserve better. You're obviously a strong girl if you can hold up to all of the criticism and not let anyone force you into doing something you don't want to do.

But obviously you're not ready to care for a child. I would put it up for adoption so that it can get a home with two parents that can afford to take care of it. If you try to keep it, and make your boyfriend pay child support, this kid will learn soon enough that he/she wasn't wanted by their father. That's a horrible thing for a kid to have to feel. Save them that, and let them have a home with two loving parents.

Answer 3

Holding on to a baby just to keep or get your exboyfriend back is a trap for disaster. Nothing good will come out of it except your child. It seems as though you may have to take care of your child on your own if you're not looking towards adoption. In a situation like this, you should be able to have the support from your family. If you do decide to keep your child, look into filing for child support just in case. And when or if you do, don't exploit your business to everyone. Just go to the courts and file. Especially if he starts to treat you grimy.

But whatever you do, don't use your child as a weapon or a pawn. Years from now when you are a little older and mature, you will think about the things you have done and you will be embarrass within yourself, and regret you ever did it. If you lean towards adoption, make sure that's your final decision.

As far as your ex is concerned, he may come back then he might not. It all depends on what his family is chatting in is ears and his conscience. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Did you get pregnant deliberately? If so, then I think you deserve their wrath, but if it was a mistake, then he's just as much at fault as you are for not using birth control. If his college career was such a high priority in his life, he should have made sure he used protection. If you have this baby and keep it, you and he will be tied together forever, but that doesn't necessarily mean in a romantic way and keep in mind too that his family isn't going anywhere. They will also be in your life for the rest of your life. You need to stop focusing on him and his family and start focusing on this baby you made. You are going to be a mother and a huge part of being a mother means putting your baby's needs ahead of your own. Yes, your baby needs a father, but you can't MAKE someone be a father. The most you can do is get child support out of him.

Answer 5

Girl, first of all, anyone that tells you to get an abortion when you can provide for that child if you bring it to term or want to have the baby does not mean you any good.


Please remember that if your partner does not achieve his goals of going to college/doing well you face the possibility of him and / his family blaming it on you and the baby.


For the sake of yourself, the pregnancy and the well-being of the unborn child, give your boyfriend a lot of space. If he comes around in the end and wants to be with you and eventually love this child. If not, look to your family for support as I would be weary to let this child go around his father and family until they have prove themselves as telling you to have an abortion signifies that currently there s no love for this baby.


Good luck and i hope that the father comes around and be a dad to his child in the future consistently.

Answer 6

You don't mention ages, but he sounds like a scared little boy. Stick to your guns. After the baby is born, he might change his mind. In any case please make sure that he pays you child support.

If he doesn't change his mind, he is a loser and you are better off without him. If he does, you can probably work things out if his family doesn't interfere. When he grows up, he will not want his step mother to run his life.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Anything's possible.
But the man needs to think for himself. Sounds like he's far too old to be relying solely on what his parents think.
I'm sorry you're in such a situation, but he needs to have more respect for you.

Answer 8

anything is possible but dont get your hope up it sound like
they feel as you were the only one in this it take two, he has'a
responsiblitity to this child and rather he in the picture are not
you need to do what is right for this child. if he come around
that good but if he does not then you be the best parent
for this child. and the hell with them. good luck to you
and this child.

Answer 9

Why would you want him back? He is a spineless weakling, who has actually let his family brainwash him into giving you all the blame for something that you and him did together, after all. You've "ruined his college life", who stuck it in then?
Forget him and find yourself a real man.

Answer 10

Tell his parent to kiss your *** and he helped to make the baby and now he can help to raise it, but if you want to really get rid of your baby thing about how you would fill if you where living with foster parent getting sent to different homes each month