I am often told that I am antisocial. I don't want to be, I just don't understand other people very well. I've always been a bit of a loner because I just feel different. I'm not ugly, weird, shy, or stuck up. In fact, I have a lot of compassion for others, I just have trouble keeping friendships and understanding why people are the way they are. If anyone ever feels this way, or has any insight, I would greatly appreciate it!!! :)
2007-03-16 18:36:49 · 14 answers · asked by Nidda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't get discouraged, maybe you're trying to force friendships with all the wrong people don't worry about it so much just get out there be yourself and you'll find some of the best friends that you've ever had....there are plenty of people out there just like and if you have a lot of compassion for others show them that and people won't be able to help but love you. good luck!
2007-03-24 10:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by Leannedrufy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's two different explanations. One, it's you--you are antisocial. Or, two--it's them.
It's not a bad thing, but it sounds like you might be mildly autistic--although all people show some signs of autism, being antisocial and not being able to relate well to others is a huge sign. I'm not talking "Rainman" type, but people that just don't understand what other people are thinking or have a harder time trying to make other people understand what they mean. People that are midly autistic can lead normal lives, but feel that they are just somehow different. People who are autistic typically have difficulty reading social cues (when it's appropriate to talk or not, how close to be next to someone, etc.), have difficulty looking at people in the eye (which can be translated into being antisocial), and other things like that. There's no "cure", but there is help with understanding how to be more social and such.
Or, it could be that you're just choosing the wrong people to be your friends!
2007-03-17 01:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by April W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I get told I'm antisocial a lot too. I know its not terribly hopeful, but I don't think there is much you can do you change it. It's simply who you are. If you believe it is a psychological problem, there are people you can talk to. Other than that, its just who you are and you should embrace it and be happy knowing you're not the only one who questions human nature, or the only one who feels different. Different is a blessing because you have a different perspective on things and i'll bet you aren't boring.
2007-03-17 01:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by KerrieJae 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's me too antisocial and don't know why. I just don't get some people. And I never seem to say the right thing. And why can't people just be real. Sometimes everyone just seems so fake and I just don't get it. And why can't everyone just say what they really mean. I also feel a lot like Holden from Catcher in the Rye. I know I didn't answer any of your questions. Sorry people are still a mystery to me.
2007-03-17 01:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by beyondthelimit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that use to be me but a few years back it changes. I was the same way as you I was a loner but then I started wondering what was wrong with me and i came to find out that there was nothing wrong i just felt different/shy but I wanted that to change i wanted to fit in with others all you need to do is stop being so self conscious and just let yourself go be yourself they will either like you for that or not you need to open yourself up more and get to know more people and don't be afraid to associate more and get to know people for who they really are. You need to realize that there is nothing wrong with you you are just not as confident in yourself as you need to be. You are just as normal as anyone else so hang loose and you will have a great time and meet some nice people who will like you for who you are!
2007-03-17 01:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah omg im totally the same. I figured out that everyone is equal, so that means that the only way to understand is to go out there and do stuff with a friend or a cuzin or older brother or sister, or even your mum or dad. It was so scary the first time i started to understand and then tried to be involved, i was with my cuzin and i was in the big city and we went up to a group of people who are my cuzins friends and we just hung out all day. They thought i was wierd coz i was different, but after hanging out with you for a bit they begin to accept that that is who you are. That was was my first remarkable breakthrough. Now i have a group of friends and we always go out and enjoy life. If you dont want to be antisocial anymore be brave and ask someone to hang out with you for a bit or to introduce you to other people BUT still be yourself, but dont stand there in the background, be involved or theyll think ur boring.
2007-03-25 00:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by criss_in_da_house 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh,yes.I have the same problem if you want it to call that way.It is a little strange,but at the same time i love people and i enjoy being alone.Watching TV,going out for a coffee or shopping.Sometimes i don't understand other people and i think maybe it is me.I don't have a best friend,because i am afraid to get back stubbed like before.I don't call people just to say hello.And most of them think that i am a stuck up person.I care what they think,but then again i don't give a damn who says what.Are we friends or what?
2007-03-17 01:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve described just how I am almost exactly. I like other people alot, but I prefer to be by myself because I just dont "click" with other people. I see others talking with one another but when I try it myself I just draw a blank. The only times i can really talk to other people is when its of a common interest or a meaningful discussion. Although I can relate with you, unfortunately I cant give you any insight. Im still searching just like you.
2007-03-17 01:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by MaKeShIfT 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am also kind of lonely because I tend to dissagree or not relate to people.
I guess some people don't like opinion or maybe it's meant for you to focus on other things than friendship. It can distract you and maybe there's more meant for your future.
2007-03-24 23:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by lovely diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, that`s my description too. You can read some of my past questions, and ones say almost the same as yours. I hope we can be friends :)
I`m a sad strange little poet, with shy and book-absorbed ways.
Please add me to your contacts and e-mail me. I had been hoping for quite a while to meet someone alike me.
thank you.
2007-03-17 01:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Ive T. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋