I will be driving 4 hours to meet some man that I talked to on the internet..What precautions should I take?
2007-03-16 18:33:47 · 45 answers · asked by Karen L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would meet in a public place, and for a short amount of time. You never know what you are getting into until it happens. You have to play things over cautious even if you feel like you really know him.
Why isn't he driving four hours to meet you?
2007-03-16 18:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about just using some common sense. Some say don't ever meet someone from the Internet. And as conservative as I am, I actually say its ok to meet people from the Internet. BUT...big but here...But you have to use the same precautions you would use if you were meeting someone for the first time say in a nite club or a social function. Would you after a couple of drinks and a few lines of conversation go back to someones house or for a drive in their car? I don't think so...the news is riddled with stories like that. No.... what you usually do is take things incrementally...talk a few times on the phone......meet for drinks in a public place....etc. In other words get to know someone first before taking the risk of doing something you will regret. So your best precaution is for him to make the drive and meet you someplace quite public and innocent..,,.maybe lunch at a public cafe. I have met women before from the Internet and I feel I can take care of myself, but I still want to meet someplace very public ...not just for safety sake but because if she is annoying after I meet her, I will want and easy way to politely get out of it.....so this isn't just for women here ....it applies to everyone....be carefull...use common sense and Good Luck!
2007-03-16 18:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Meet at a restaurant, somewhere you would expect to be quiet,not a teenage hangout where there is a lot of activity, check the local listings online & actually call the restaurants & ask if it is a quiet establishment. Don't drink any alcohol before or during the date.Personally, I would have him meet me half way I wouldn't drive all the way to his town he has an advantage on his own turf & by the time you drive all that way & have the date, if there really is one, you won't want to drive all the way back home.Have a cell phone, preferably not a flip phone, with you have 911 programmed to one number dialing just in case.Keep it in your pocket at all times. If you at any time feel threatened remain calm, go to the restroom & push that button, remember you have to give your location if you use a cell phone know what your street address is, if you have left the restaurant keep a check on your street signs & highway markers, know where you are at all times .Make sure someone knows where you are at all times ,if possible, take a couple of friends, preferably in separate cars, let them go in first & get a table then go in & meet your date. Do not act like you know them, so he will think you are alone.Do not leave with him for any reason.Hope this helps. If you stay in a hotel do not let him know where you are staying.
2007-03-16 18:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by love_um_or_leave_um 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't the two of you meet 1\2 way? It isn't safe to go to his house to meet. You need to meet in public where there are people around. At least the 1st time. Then have him come to you the 2nd visit. I drove 3 hours (which was 1\2 was) to meet someone. They didn't show. So it was a waste of time & gas but we were meeting in a public & nutral area. The next time I made plans to meet some one it was states away & there we met in Vegas, just make sure your safe. You don't really know what the person is truely like in person.
2007-03-16 18:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ghost 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good you're going to his town. Still you may want to research his area first. Anyway it's not a good idea for him to know where you are. You definitely need to meet in a very public place and stay there. No matter how nice or cool you think he is stay in public. If you plan to stay in a hotel don't let him know which one either. I know many people meet nice folks on the net but. Even more people never see the light of day after an internet date. It may be a good idea to bring someone with you just in case. If not make sure you tell someone where you're going and who you'll meet. Also make sure he doesn't follow you to your hotel or home. I know I seem overly cautious but better safe than sorry.
2007-03-16 18:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by quel772o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more common sense and self appreciation.
To meet this person at there own house, when you have only talked online, (even if you talk online for years) , is Not a survival decision.
Don t take offense, but it is a desperat move. Yet this is either going to be One large hard lesson for you to learn, Or not.
Bring with you , a cell phone. Make certain you let a friend or someone know where you will be, this person s address.
And bring a bible to scare the sh it out of the person.
2007-03-16 18:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by Aaron M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NEVER go to someone's house that you have never met. You two will be alone there, and you don't know what that could lead to. Keep in mind you have only talked to this person online, and if he turns out to be someone you didn't expect you should be in a public place where there will be other people in case something goes wrong. It is a VERY bad idea to accept a man's invitation to his house. I could see if you were a man, but you're not. You are old enough to make your own decisions, but that would not be a very smart one. There are too many things that could go wrong.
2007-03-16 18:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by daniellelaura118 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER meet at their house or private location. Always meet in a public place where there are lots of people. Be sure someone knows where you are going to meet this person and what day and time you will meet this person. Also be sure to set up a time to call your friend to let them know that everything is going ok.
2007-03-16 18:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your first precaution would be to turn around and go
home. You have no idea what you are getting yourself
into. If he's any man at all, he would be the one driving
4 hours to your town....and not to spend the night at
your house...just so you could meet face to face and
get to know one another....take in a dinner and a movie
or something.
2007-03-16 18:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by Northwest Womps 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT go to his house. Meet him in a public place. Even after you meet him do not go to his house. The best precautions you can take is not go, or definitely do not go alone.
2007-03-16 18:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋