Help! I am scared and confused.?

Question

I feel lost. Like I am all alone. I went to a basketball game with my friends, and I never felt more alone in a room of people. I don't know what to do. I have things I want to do but I don't want to give in! I feel so depressed and alone, even though there are so many things going for me. I was pregnant, but lost the baby. The anniversary of my baby's due date is coming up, and I don't know if I can handle it! I thought I was over it but I am not.....I don't know what to do, I just want to crawl in a hole and die. Any advice out there?

It was a while ago, almost 2 years. And I thought I was fine until I started talking about it.......
And don't tell me that I AM fine because if I was I wouldn't be online asking other people. I don't want to be in the funk I used to be, that led me to trying to commit suicide.....

Answer 1

My Dear Sweet Sam I am so sorry for your loss! I too lost twin -girls and I have never gotten over it and their birthday would have been 2 days before mine. Sometimes People act like well My God will you just get over it. They are gone they were babies, for God sakes get agrip-They're Crazy! I tell you. It was a human life you felt moving inside of you andwith my case two and the pain is real but very few realize this especially sometimes if they've never miscarried or have never been through any kind of tragic loss. It's so real and the world seem like it's spinning but you're not going anywhere, like suspended in time. It's abad feeling Darlin and I can feel your pain and loss. They say Time heals all wounds, well maybe out-side but in the Heart that's a different wound. Talk to someone- Find a Real Friend that you can share your grief with.There's gotta be someone out there you can confide in. I live with this pain everyday, every Christams,every Mother's Day, every Father's Day,I almost hate Christmas, but this year was the best I've had in 20 -years. You'll make it - One day at a time. I hope you can try to have more kids if you want. I was told I could never have any,because I came down with Ulcerative Colitis and stayed on Steroids and all kind s of crap. My body has been through it feels like sometimes Hell and Back. Take one day at a time and if you have some faith that's what got me through, the only salvation for me. The Best Of Luck To You and Remember You have a Sister Freind out here that knows alittle about where you may have been! Don't loose Hope-Don't Loose Faith-Keep on Going as tough as it may seem- Do it in memory of your child, he/she would not want you tobe sad although the heart still feels pain and loss, and brokeness. Carry on!God Bless You All The Way-You'll make it-You are stronger than you think!

Answer 2

Have you thought about the idea that being pregnant triggered post partum depression? Being pregnant causes your hormones to go out of balance because of the changes your body goes through. Symptoms of postpartum is depression. If I were you I would go get a simple blood test that can tell you what's going on. It could also be your thyroid or possibly depression. Don't spend another uneeded minute sad when depression or these other diagnoses can be easily treated.

Answer 3

c if u feel lk dying no 1 can help u.bt life is given to live it.all of us have problems.u hv 1 too.bt u hv 2 come over it.i ll tell u a fact.i lost my most closest friend in a bike accident 3 months ago.we had so many plans together.so many things 2 do.bt all lost and shattered.thn after 2 months his elder brother also expired due to gunshot.he was in army.i jst dnt hv wrds 4 thm.i jst hope they 2 together.think abt thr parents.hw they feel?hw they are spending their life.bt yes we all r spending our life.we all hv 2 pass this journey.u hv lost ur baby.i can't imagine the pain bt yes u hv 2 overcome it.plan with ur husband.concieve once more.have another swt baby.ur 1st baby ll *** back 2 u in the face of ur 2nd 1.hv a good life.evry1 cares abt u...

Answer 4

Sweet heart I really feel for you. I cannot Begin to imagine the lost of a baby. You are showing the affects of severe depression. My advice would be to contact a doctor and let him know of your feelings. I to felt like a loner in the crowd after a really close friend of mine died. Since im against medicine to treat depression, I turn to exercise and meditation.Talking to others really help also. I really do hope you get better soon.

Answer 5

Talk to somebody about it!!! some one that you trust, like a close friend, or a doctor. A doctor could probably prescibe an antidepressant for you. On the Baby's due date, you could do something just for to try to keep your mind off of it. But seriously, talk to a doctor especially if this last longer than three weeks!

hoping the best for you!

Answer 6

first of all you are not the only person in this worrld who feels like this. and not everyone feeling like this creeps into a hole and dies. everyone goes through similar bad phases in life. its not the end. if u do believe in god pray and move forward. u can still have a baby. life is calling u. just creep out of that hole and look out. listen to some good music and enjoy life. music can change things. i f u have a good friend talk to him/her. got out for a coffee with your best firnd. a lot of things can happen over a coffee. and so the thing i wantto say to you is that you are goin to live and you are going to be the happiest person in this world. good luck.

Answer 7

Donkey in the well

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally he decided the animal was old, that the well needed to be covered anyway and that it just wasn't worth retrieving the donkey. So he invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement, he quietened down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well and was astonished at what he saw. With every shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer's neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and trotted off! Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up.

Parable of the Carrot, Egg, and Coffee

You may never look at a CUP OF COFFEE the same way again. A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?" "Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?" Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water. "Which are you?" she asked her daughter. " When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?" Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you can get better and change the situation around you with God's help. How do you handle adversity? When adversity strikes, ask yourself...ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?

Answer 8

I dont think u are in any real trouble. People in depression and other mental disorders DO NOT feel that they have any problem. Persons wih REAL problem would act according to their mind, and would never ever feel or admit that there is problem is in themself. SO if u are able to think about what u are undergoing right now, THEN, U can surely find a remedy.

Answer 9

You really need to speak to a counselor or doctor. The feelings that you are having are very common but also can easily become dangerous. Also, don't feel bad about grieving. If it hurts, let it hurt. It is the only way to heal.

Answer 10

i'm sorry about your baby. take some time to relax, do the things you normally do, but take it slow. definetly talk to someone about everything. hang out with your best friends or some family members at home and have a movie night. funny movie+fav food=good times. good luck.