Instead of relaxing once in awhile and going out to watch a three hour movie or go shopping or hang out with friends, I often feel like I should be doing something else i.e. practice my Spanish (I'm taking AP Spanish next year), help my parents clean the house, studying, help others by vounteering service, improve on my Vietnamese, spend time with my little brother, etc.
2007-03-16 18:18:47 · 11 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
That's called "responsibility", and you are admirable for this. If many people thought the way you did, world would be a much better place.
BUT, don't let it take over your life. You have a right to have fun, and without feeling good, you can't be good at your studies.
2007-03-16 21:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Tayfun T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this guilt is rational. It's based on real things that are pressing and important to you. Rational does not mean necessary however.
I have a 3 year old son. This past Christmas I kept thinking about all the children who weren't enjoying the love of family and the magic of the holiday. Was that rational? Sure it was.
However, in order to achieve balance in life you must go further than to ask yourself, "Is this guilt rational?". You need to weight your guilt against what is best for you. Would it be best for me to immerse myself into a pit of guilt, allowing that to seep into my family's holiday and my son's experience? Or would it be better for me to acknowledge the guilt and concern for others by saying a prayer or planning on helping others at another time?
Your need for down time, fun and companionship is just as important as all the other things you listed. You need to include yourself in that list. To alleviate the guilt you could plan a special activity with just your brother or dedicate one Saturday to doing nothing but helping your parents with a cheery attitude.
2007-03-16 18:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by rosannerdanna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always good to relax and have fun. However, I think that of all the problems you could have, this is a very nice one to have. You love your family and yourself and there is nothing wrong with that. You shouldn't feel guilty however. You should do these things out of love. Love for them and yourself. And loving yourself means taking some "you" time to reward yourself for all of the hard work you do.
(Notice how many times I used the word "you" in that paragraph?)
2007-03-16 18:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little guilt is very healthy. It is our inner voice keeping us on track. But when guilt becomes obsessive, it is NOT healthy. Always keep in mind that you need time for yourself and your needs, and try to keep a balance. Do something for yourself and then clean your parents house. Go to a movie and then study. As long as you feel the balance, you are ok.
2007-03-16 18:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by mayben 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us feel guilty when we are doing things that are not aligned with what our priorities/values are. You need to figure out what your values are and put priority levels on them. Based on where the values fit on the priority scale, manage your time by dedicating time to activities that support your values/goals. Okay, I'm not making sense, but do you get it?
2007-03-16 18:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by disorder_ly_conduct 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have make a schedule and give your from time to time to rest your brain and body, at this rate you are working like robot so give yourself a break. If you have microsoft office outlook 2003 and up you can set up a schedule for you.
2007-03-16 18:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by Spiritual and Philosopher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You only feel guilty if you are a Catholic I am a Catholic who doesn't give a damn especially on St Paddy's Day
2007-03-16 20:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by hobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal I feel like that sometime, I just think that it is growing up early than your normal years.
2007-03-16 18:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tummy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's very nice and it will help you alter but you should take your time for yourself and some activities matched to your age. This afternoon go shopping, please promise me, once you'll do that you'll never stop , just kidding!
2007-03-16 18:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by Pearl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋