Last October I moved to California on a limb, leaving my girlfriend of 9 months who i love dearly back home in NC, in late November she moved in with her brother who also lives in California to be with me. My living situation was unbearable so I moved back home, abandoning her. Now shes spending a week with a girl i do not trust and she hasnt called me since. i called her this morning asking why shes avoiding me, she replied shes not and said she'll call me back. Do i get worried?What should i think?
2007-03-16 18:11:59 · 10 answers · asked by Bryan M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She doesn't think the relationship is working. So, I THINK she's trying to move on.
2007-03-16 18:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by itstoolate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would worry for the sake of the relationship you "think" you two are having. I can't obviously say too much because I don't know what other obstacles you both have faced that have led you two to make the decisions you have. BUT – you've moved away from your girlfriend twice. If I was in her place I would be getting tired of trying to track my bf down thinking he would just move away again.
I wish you both the best of luck. I was in a long distance relationship...so I sort of can relate to wierd moving/living/communication problems.
2007-03-17 01:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by gdesigner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is you can't be right with someone else, if your not right with yourself.In other words get your sh!t together before worrying about anyone else.
The fact you keep going across the country and back again means you need to get yourself right, and figure out what your doing, she must like you to follow you around, but I wouldn't roll that dice to many times.
Hope this helps
2007-03-17 01:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude! She's getting back at you for abandoning her in the first place. My advice is wait it out if you really care for her and maybe she'll turn back around.
2007-03-17 01:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by socal29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep abandoning her one minute and caring for her the next minute?
If you really care for her, meet her up & catch up with her. Explain your situation to her if you have to.
If you're worried for her, tell her.
And keep it clear if you're caring for her as a boyfriend or a friend. Do not give mixed signals. It's very confusing & frustrating to read your mind.
2007-03-17 01:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really loved her, the 2 of you would've found a place together --she's right to avoid you! You've left her 2x, she's figuring a third time's the charm!
2007-03-17 01:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by nancydeanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my boyfriend left me high and dry to go to California, I would be very p****d off, However if I moved to California to be with him again and he left me yet again, he wouldnt be my boyfriend anymore. That is quite a move to be left by someone who supposedly loves you...especially when it happens twice. You are very lucky she is even speaking to you. Can you honestly blame her for being furious with you??? geez....
2007-03-17 01:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, didn't you guys get in touch while you were away? Why didn't you stay in CA she might be thinking your the one avoiding her though..... Tell her what your thinking. Because she might be thinking your cheating on her that's why you avoided her by moving away... Good Luck Kevin
2007-03-17 01:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust her? most of the time if you really think that something bad is going to happen it will.
2007-03-17 01:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by serenitydaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck buddy. you are going to get her back. but u have to make her talk to you. make things loud and clear. solve it as soon as possible.no point in wasting time if shes not goin to listen to you.
2007-03-17 01:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by coolestpark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋