I still like one of my ex's but he broke up with me and said were are better off as friends but now its strange to be around him because i still like him..what should i do? I really want to get back together. =(
he is a great guy and i dont wanna loose touch. I'd rather be friends then not talk to him anymore.
This happened 2 months ago and i have dated other guys is just they all turned out to be just jerks.
2007-03-16 18:03:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take a break and enjoy being single for a while.
It's fun :)
And about your ex, stay friends with him for now.
2007-03-16 18:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by itstoolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's hard hanging out with then you need to stop. The more you see him the more you're going to like him and it's not going to solve anything. You may think that it's better to be friends because he's a great guy, but if you still like him and he doesn't feel the same way then you're missing out on what you could be having, potentially hurting yourself. And part of the reason why you're falling for these jerky guys is because you're rebounding... the only way to move on from this, sadly, is just to leave the situation. Who knows, maybe he'll realize that he misses you and things will work out..
2007-03-17 01:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Blythe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he might have another girl on mind. But if that's what he said then he thinks that the relationship is not working out or he might need more time to know you. But if you tell him you might be..... sad because he might not want a friend to like him and he might be further apart from you because he's trying to get you to stop liking him and each day your realtionship will be breaking apart..But if it is really hard for you inside you can just express yourself the way you want it Good Luck
Kevin
2007-03-17 01:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first problem is you were dumped by the guy. Your second is you still have feelings. Your third is that you are not moving on because you are spending time with him and keeping those feelings alive.
The way to solve this problem, and keep him as a friend is to stop seeing him for a while so that YOU have time to heal in a way that allows you to be a friend without hurting you.
Moving on is a good thing, I know it hurts and I know you don't want to but there is nothing to be gained by torturing yourself and reminding him you hurt. Moving on could also cause him to realize he still wants you, or cause you to meet the guy that does want you and you want too.
Good luck, HTH
2007-03-17 01:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
date more guys casually and call him, email or text him to say hi every week or two if he's ok with it and doesn't act all weird about it. just say hi how ya doin and what you been up to? keep it real lite, dont say much, just bye ttyl...
this is called giving him the gift of missing you...
if for any reason he quits answering, then you have your answer...
but if you see him anywhere with or without a gf, then smile, say hi, and go on you are busy with your life... remember?
if he still acts like your friend and takes your calls, etc,
then I'd stay friends for now ..we never know what the future holds and there's nothing like good friends who know us for who we have been and are now...
btw, guys are supposed to be jerks, but if they have a great sense of humor about them also, then he may just be a good jerk..keep an eye on that one..he may be dating material..depends on what you like..you'll learn as you grow and we never stop learning and growing..
2007-03-17 01:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, most of us are jerks. stay friends with the guy, but let him know you are interested (WHEN HE'S SINGLE). be the go-to-girl. guys like to have a girl around when they hang out, just play it cool. if he's not interested after a while, you'll end up with one of his friends who is better than him. and there is always someone better
2007-03-17 01:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by joseph w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to hang around someone that broke up with you?
Don't be pathetic. Walk up to him and say, "You know what! i don't appreciate you breaking up with me, and for that im not putting out tonight!!"
2007-03-17 01:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by whatthefuusername 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having a conversation with him telling him how you want to be his friend. Give him and yourself sometime and things should work themselves out.
2007-03-17 01:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by rahernand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget about him. i know that it is easy to say that, than actually doing it. but if he wants to just be friends, then you have to respect that. i think it would be best if you really didn't talk to him, because the more you talk to him, probably the more you will like him.
2007-03-17 01:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by mle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how you feel via email, im, phone, or in person. just tell him the absolute truth!
and if he STILL "just wants to be friends"... well... that's a good start to an end of a relationship!
2007-03-17 01:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by naterocksdude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋