I've been really sick this past month and when I started to get better I'd get hit with some other ailment. This past week I've been feeling better but haven't gone to work because I've fallen into a kind of depression. Last week my only living relative on my fathers side was diagnosed with stomach cancer and the doctors gave her one week to live. It's been over a week but she's really very ill and it looks like she could go any day now. About a few days ago my grandmothers sister, the only living relative of my grandmothers generation and time in my family had a pretty bad stroke and the doctors expect the worst. Last week my sister was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis and her health is pretty bad and her family is going through so much hardships right now. I can't seem to drag myself to do anything, work, school. What should I tell my bosses to make them understand? I need the job and am afraid they'll be angry and fire me.
2007-03-16 17:58:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Girl you need to tell your boss the truth, you need to tell him/her all the things that are happening, if they dont have the compassion in their heart to reach out to you than they do not deserve to have you work for them, you need to spend the next couple of days with your sick family member. (teardrop)
2007-03-16 18:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are going through such a rotten time right now. Find someone (a boss) at work that you can explain the situation to. Maybe they can at least work your schedule around to allow for the times you need to be with your family.
I know that where I work, they will work with the employees to some extent but when push comes to shove, they are going to replace someone that has a lot of issues with someone that only wants the job. The days of companies taking care of their employees are pretty much over.
As for taking care of yourself, someone suggested getting some counseling and going to work. That may be the best way to handle it. At least your mind will be on something else and give you a break from thinking about all that is going wrong. Good luck either way.
2007-03-16 18:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a lot to handle. I'd be honest. Still, you might even be better off at work. Make yourself go-once there in familiar surroundings, I always feel occupied with something I CAN control and enjoy the time away from problems.Truly though, whatever is going on in your personal life you owe it to them to be professional. They hired you for a reason and cannot be expected to carry you longer.Everybody has problems. Would you be better off adding jobless to this list? Nope. Don't miss any more. They do not owe you a thing.
2007-03-16 18:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by life coach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a good excuse to get off work. You have a valid REASON for not going to work. Talk to the human resource department at your job and request a Family Medical Leave. Because of the FMLA, you can take off up to six weeks for documented family emergencies. As long as you are needed for the care of family members (emotional support, physically caring for, or transportation of) you will not get paid, but you will not lose your job either. Unfortunately, you will not get bereavement leave when they do pass because they are not considered your immediate family member (parent, sibling, or child).
In addition, once you get work straightened out, you need to take care of yourself. Talk to your family doc about a short-term mild antidepressant, just enough to take the edge off and allow you to cope a little easier.
I hope things get better for you. I know what it's like to lose loved ones in drawn out illnesses. I pray God gives you the strength to carry on.
Blessings
2007-03-16 18:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by Silverwolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry ,I pray the LORD will do a miracle and heal your sister as well as your other family members.Be strong tho,Ive had to go to work depressed, but Ive found that going to the LORD in prayer helps.HE can see us thru anything.The Bible says to cast all our cares upon JESUS for HE careth for us.Try visiting church sometime, the united pentecostals are good, I think youd like them.
2007-03-16 18:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. The truth might be a good place to start. Sounds like you've had an extremely difficult time. Hopefully they will understand - albeit most likely temporarily.
2007-03-16 18:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by scarter3523 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO! tell them the truth tell them you had a death in the family. if they dont understand than move on and find another job. there are things in life we just can't control.
2007-03-16 18:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by brenda_lilb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to work. Laying around moping isnt going to do you or anyone else any good. Meanwhile make an appt with a Dr to discuss your depression.
2007-03-16 18:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my go to excuse is explosive diarrhea. call from the bathroom. it gives the echo recognizable to everybody. squirt an empty shampoo bottle into the toilet for added effect
2007-03-16 18:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by joseph w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a leave of absence policy - make use of it.
If one of your benefits is EAP (Employee Assistance Program) - call them and talk to a counselor!
2007-03-16 18:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by snowdrop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋