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Question

If I am trying to get closer to God and try to be able to live my life for only God, is it okay to be in a serious relationship?
My boyfriend is also a Christian
But I just want to know if yawl think it would hold me back

(if your not a Christian please dont answer because this is a serious question and the last thing I want to read is someone saying bad things about God)

Well I am 18 years old.
Marriage might be in th future but who knows really.
I just want to do whats best and suggestions and opinions would help.
It does say in the Bible to get wise counsel.
Is there any wise counsel out there for me??

Answer 1

Hey, I'm so glad you're thinking about this kind of stuff. I would argue that it is not wrong to be in a serious relationship, as long as that boy is not detracting from your love of God. God gave Adam a wife and told them to be fruitful and multiply. So as long as you wait to sleep with this boy until you're married, and as long as you still love God no matter what happens with you and your boyfriend, I say go right ahead.

Answer 2

I am so glad you are looking for wise counsel. The Lord call us to purity before marriage and faithfulness within marriage. If you are single and working on your consecration to God, then His blessing will be upon you. Just remember that when looking for a potential mate, that person will either double your ministry or cut it in half. By that I mean that if you are a team, God will enlarge your mission field to encompass both of you. If you are not "equally yoked" Your partner will divert your energy for God's work. Your boyfriend will demand more of your attention and time instead of partnering with you to do the work together. Think about these things as you consider this man. Ask God to confirm this relationship or take him away. Better to be alone and serving God than in a relationship that takes you away from HIM. God loves you so much that He wants the best man for you. Trust Him with that. God Bless you.

Answer 3

...A little advice for you:
...1. Don't choose a date who wouldn't make a good mate.
...2. If you date, omit (best way) or severely limit touching until after marriage.
...3. If you date, do ministry-type stuff - to see if you can minister together.
...4. Do not marry unless both sets of parents support your decision to marry.
...5. Get Biblical marital counseling before you marry.
...6. Only marry a growing Christian.
...7. Ask God for and only marry someone who loves God more than he/she loves you.

Answer 4

Define serious relationship. If you are saying you both care about eachother and perhaps in the future you intend to marry but you are not having sex and you do not allow yourselves to be alone so that you might compromise your integrity to yourselves and your God--Go for it. Just remember that your loyalty to God comes first and act accordingly.
If however, you are saying that ya'll are acting as if you were married but you are not--that would definately hinder your relationship with God. You will have to choose--God or this behavior. It is that simple.

Answer 5

If we are to be like our father in heaven can we do it by never becoming a loving father/ mother of children?

The greatest experience and lesson we can learn as mere mortals is the Father/motherhood experience.

Christ had a special work to finish. I know we are to be like Christ in spirit and love, but not in life. He does not expect us to have the same work as him, only to have the same love for everybody as he had. The brother/sisterhood of mankind is what Christ taught. He did not teach a life of celibacy as a way of gaining favor with God. Why did Christ love and defend children if he did not want you to spend time having them?

Paul should not be our example of how God wants us to live our lives; listen to Christ first. I have nothing against Paul, Christ is who I listen to.

I am married 30 years to the same person and I have 3 children.

Your question is heart wrenching; please find out what Jesus would say, how would he answer? Forget everybody else.

Jesus is with you.

Peace.............

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I would suggest marrige. The bible points out in Corinthians I believe that if you are going to be tempted, get married, it is better to be married then to sin. If you plan on marrying him, then do it. My husband and I got married in 1 month :) Weve been happily married for over 2 years now, and have 3 kids (17 month old twins, and a 5 month old!)

Answer 8

How old are you?? No serious answer can be forthcoming without me knowing that.

Do you think you are called to marriage? Or the single life? Also important to discern.

Are you ready to get married?

If you are, if you think you'd like to get married and if you think he might be the one - then sure - have a serious relationship and grow in the Lord together.

Otherwise - why are you even contemplating a "serious relationship"?

Answer 9

If your question is should you wait till your wedding night before being intimate, I say from experience yes.
my husband and myself were both Christan's we waited, and I believe it put a very special bond between us.
we were together for two years before marriage and we have been together 24 since no adultery or even ever separated, he is my one and only and I'm his.
True love till death do us part.

Answer 10

I'd say it depends on your age and your intentions for the relationship. If you think that it is possible that this will end in marriage, and your relationship is built upon a solid faith in God, I see no problem.