Ok so I'm in love and i'm only 15, and he's 18. dads a police officer. Me and and him get in alot of trouble seeing each other. And the last time we get in trouble it was the last straw. Well. My dads gets him put in jail, and he gets in for 2 distributing chargers and 1 charge of misdemeanor, for a bond of 21,000$. Yeah alot, just so he can be with me, he gets put in jail. Well He just got out of jail yesterday "thursday" and we start talking talking agine, knowing that if we get caught i go to juvinelle detention center and he gose back to jail for a ver long time. But anyways i told hi mmy dad put a restraining order on him until i'm 18. So if you know any good ways to get around restrining orders please tell me how? Cause until then were just going to wait till i'm legal and can be with each other. If his court trial april 20th dosnt send him back to jail. But i rather that instaid of.... being conciderd a sex offender but anyways. Tell something make me look to the bright side.THX
2007-03-16 17:41:48 · 9 answers · asked by Miss.Marasi 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
If you do in fact love this person, do not have any additional contact with him until you are of age. If it is real love you would not want to put him in a position of committing criminal acts that could harm his present and future. Your father has your best interest in mind. If it is in fact true love it should be able to wait three years.
2007-03-16 17:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
You are only 15 and I am sure very stubborn but I will do my best to explain this to you. Sometimes it is hard at this age for you to understand things and you have to try.
There really is no bright side unless you do the right thing and avoid this guy. There is no way around a restraining order that was issued by a judge with your DAD as the complainant. NO WAY!
He has a distribution issue so that is a concern but more importantly if you continue to see him it will escalate and ruin yours and his life FOREVER. He could face a statutory rape charge, violation of a restraining order and more importantly you can get caught up in this and ruin your life.
I hate to hurt your feelings but you need to be strong and honor your dad and let him go. I promise when your 18 you probably wont even be thinking about him anymore.
You are 15 and you have your whole life ahead of you. You sometimes have to make sacrifices that will hurt you inside so bad, but in the end when you look back you will be so glad you did. Many people sitting in prison think that every day and wish they could have made a proper decision at the time. Now is your chance....do the right thing!!
All my best to you!!
2007-03-17 00:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by flafuncop 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
According to the law your boyfriend is a sex offender......
You are soliciting others to assist you(give you ideas ,about how to "get around a restraining order"
not a good idea.......
You are only 15 years old... you've heard the lectures, been grounded and are pumped up by the "drama" that he loves you so much he will go to jail......
Here's a thought.Your knight in shining armor stays with you, you become of age ...You're happy as hell........Then what? Remember your 18 year old boyfriend will have a "SEX OFFENDER"status on his record...It doesn't go away.....you can be married after all of this and if he has a sex offender conviction on his record he will never have a decent job..Never ! He will be labeled and hounded .......Let this guy go before you both ruin eachother's lives.......
Please don't disregard this, if he takes you out of state..things will be worse..
2007-03-17 01:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by cesare214 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've kind of been there. We were both 17, though. My parents put a restraining order against him, so his mom put one against me. BIG MESS!! We were in a tiny school (11 in our class), our lockers were side by side, and we had numerous classes together. The only way around it is for the person puting the restraining order against you not to show up in court. However, if they do, it's valid.
The other way is to have ZERO contact. If you really love him, you won't put him through jail and you won't do it to yourself. I've been married ten years to my love now, and I waited until I was 18. Do yourself a favor. Put the relationship off, and if it is TRUE, it will still be there! If not, then you'll know why then. Don't ruin what's left of your relationship with your father. From your dad's view, he is trying to protect you from the hormones of an 18yo boy. He's not a man, he is a boy! He's not a man until he acts like one, and that time is not now.
Getting another person in trouble is a sign of selfishness, not love. If you really love him, you wouldn't let him do it, and he wouldn't let you... It is gut-wrenching, sleep-taking, heart-breaking difficult, but to be an adult, you have to make grown-up choices, not think like a 15yo. I understand, but making it worse, doesn't make it right. My heart goes out to you, but I have no sympathy for a person who takes the easy way out and meets ones own selfish desires. Think about it.
2007-03-17 00:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's easy! The bright side is you will turn 18--its automatic--you can't even prevent it--all you do have to do is stay alive.
It's probable that chronological age alone is not what is bothering your father. He may see this guy as a BAD guy and he may be right. You don't say distributing what? Hopefully, it isn't hard drugs, but even so your father being a cop--he just isn't going to buy it and you should be able to see why yourself. It's also possible that all this opposition is keeping the romance alive.
I think the current emphasis on age difference alone as criminal is a sin--on that I agree with you.
2007-03-17 01:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by richard d 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so why don't you wait till you are 18 your dad is only trying to look out for you or is it your boyfriend that is asking you to ask this question.you talk about love as if you know what it means many people a lot older than you don't even know the meaning of the word so my advice to you is go to school ,study hard then get back to us if you still feel the same.greets
2007-03-17 00:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surprised he hasn't been arrested as a sex offender because it would fit the criteria.
If the both of you are really in love you can wait till your 18. If not its not love just good old fashioned lust.
2007-03-17 04:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like this but what you need is a good old fashioned *** whoopin'. No, there is no way to get around a court order. You need to grow up and by some miracle of God gain some common sense because it is apparent that you have none.
2007-03-17 00:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Grampa 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
So what you are trying to say is that you love this guy so much that you want him to spend an eternity in jail.
2007-03-17 17:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋