Me and my boyfriend chris been togther for 5 years now but how can i tell him that i cheated on him with his best for 2 years now i loved chris alot i just dont wanna see him hurted in any kind of way should i tell him?
2007-03-16 17:40:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love him so much why did you cheat on him? That's all I have to say, and you *can* keep it a secret, but when he finds out, what're you gonna do? I think you should tell him now and get in trouble *or not* rather than tell him later and get in much more trouble.
2007-03-16 17:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by ☆Danielle☆ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he suspects possibly. Then maybe you should. Depending upon.... How he may react to things. If he is open minded. Yet if he's the type that: Will constantly dredge it up in your face. Every chance he gets. Then I'd advise against it. Yet I am a conscientious person. My ex boyfriend's name is Chris. And I have hurt him. In that way. On more than one instance. And believe it or not. He still wanted my trifflin. Scared of committment ***! Yet for me . I cared enough for him. To cut off the umbilical cord of "dysfunctional love". Between he and I. In any event back on topic. If you love him. As you express verbally. Then be a woman. Be honest. In the end even if he's too hurt. To persue the relationship. He'll respect the fact that; You respected him enough to tell him. I can only imagine that this is... Whipping your conscience ***. I know it did for me. Yet everyone is different. Also... I'm just curious too know... This best friend of his. Do you have some deep rooted feelings for him. Cause you can't love Chris that much. If the affair has been ongoing. For 2 years????? I'm a little mind boggled. I'm not judging you. So please don't feel that. It sounds like you need to,do some deep soul-searching. And figure out "who" or "what" you want. It isn't fair to any of you. To keep putting on a mask. Pretending as though things are ok. And if Chris has done something. Or not doing something. That has caused the infidelity. Then maybe perhaps you can tell him. So that he can work on the issue. I cheated on my ex of almost 10yrs. One of the reason's being he wasn't spending time with me. And other reasons not mentoned. It takes two to make. Or break a relationship.
2007-03-16 18:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by andelagdn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have put yourself in a terrible situation, as you know. People say you should always be honest with your partner but we all know that honesty does not mean everything will work out happily ever after, usually it the complete opposite. If it truly is eating at you day in and day out you should tell him but be prepared for the consequences.
However, if you know you were wrong and the fling you had means nothing to you now and you do not sit and harbor on this mistake daily then maybe you should think about moving on and leaving it unsaid. It really is a personal decision that you must make and I want you to know it will not be easy either way and I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-24 13:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Rissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you love him so much why did you cheat on him? I mean especially with his best friend... and if you tell him he will be mad at you I guess and if so you will also make him lose a friend. But be honest and tell him now don't pull it any further. If you tell him early and didn't do anything with the other guy tell him right away, before you get too into the other guy and you won't get a special feeling about the other dude, because if you do it will be harder for you to break up with him...But you might break up with him because, after what you had done and you try to get together with him again. You might feel you know like pressured or guilty as I should say. Good Luck if you need more help (kevinlovehilary@yahoo.com)
Kev
2007-03-16 17:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its only fair that he knows, and it will be better coming from you than if he heard it from someone else. inevitably, it will hurt his feelings but if you two really do love each other he'll hopefully be able to see past it and see that you really care about him. but you should tell him because honesty is a vital part of a relationship and right now you're not being honest with a man that you supposedly love. now for the part that you're probably not going to want to hear......telling him will most likely change things he might begin to get paranoid and be a lot more invasive of your personal life you're going to have to make some sacrifices in order to regain his complete trust and it will take time to rebuild a relationship that is as strong as you would want it to be but as long as you're both willing to put time and effort into it things should work out just fine
2007-03-24 09:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Leannedrufy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're cheating with his best friend of course it will hurt him. That is a huge betrayal. In my opinion he needs to know that his best friend is not a friend and his girlfriend is a cheat. Be prepared to lose him. A relationship is never the same after a betrayal of this magnitude. But let him know before he wastes more of his love and time on someone who can't be faithful. Put yourself in his shoes. What if HE cheated with your best friend. Would you want to know?
2007-03-16 17:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by kgee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you cheat on him in the first place?!!!! You must not love him that much. If you're willing to cheat on him for TWO YEARS then why not tell him you obviously enjoy hurting people. Don't say I'm mean when you're the cheater.
2007-03-24 09:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should suggest a threesome, Chris, his best friend and you. If his best friend and Chris have both been doing you for two years, I imagine they probably know you are pretty accommodating and probably suspect you may have another guy when they are not available. I doubt if he would be hurt and he might enjoy the threesome.
2007-03-24 17:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, why did you cheat on him for 2 years? Does he deserve better than a girl friend who cheats on him? I would dump both of you!
2007-03-24 15:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont tell him it would be the right thing but then he would be rubbing it in your face all the time or maybe he would just brake up with you cuzz afterall it was his best friend and both of you betrayed him so gurl if you dont want to loose him dont even tell him...
2007-03-24 11:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by sweetness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋