It's horrible because it keeps me from opening up to men. What can I do about this?? Thanks.
2007-03-16 17:39:32 · 5 answers · asked by april.may 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, consider this, I'm a guy of course. but I admit sometimes we are pigs. But 90% of guys aren't. Just because if you had some bad relationship with someone and you think they were bad, that doesn't mean the next person is going to treat you the same way, you just got to use your heart feel what's right. You make your own decisions. I think you're just confused because of the type of men that approach you. Try and find a guy that isn't a hard ***, a dick or anything like that. Make sure you know them long and well enough to know how they are and act. Then take it to the next level. I hope this helps out a little bit.
2007-03-16 17:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by pballstar24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A reflective question back to you then, 'Do you have trust issues and have you been tricked in the past?'
I guess there is a bit of miss and hit about this whole thing, because there are some guys who will only come and approach you to sleep with you and there are others who just simply want to chat to you because they feel you might have something intellegant to say.
If a guy does come to you, then you have a few amount of control of where the interaction can go. So for instance if you (notice how I've put YOU) like the guy and feel a bit of chemistry then there is nothing wrong with following through with sleeping with him as long it is safe (safe sex is cool: STI is not!). But if the guy that does come up to you and you feel that he is a big sleeze then you have the power and right to not continue with the conversion with him and simply move on.
But remember you won't even have that choice if you don't allow a guy to come along to simply chat to you.
Oh one other thing....try to re-enforce within your head that not all guys are wanting to sleep with you, unless you send signals that indicate that you want guys to sleep with you. In other words you have the power to make or break things!!!
2007-03-17 00:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by O2Phone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth of the matter is that they're SURER they want to sleep with you than anything else. But they're HOPING they wind up wanting a lot more from you too.
2007-03-17 01:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FYI: guys are attracted to beauty and their sex drive exceeds the need for food. Look for a hard working christian with conservative values. By all means don't get sexual- look at the mess your friends are in that are sex addicts. They won't tell you but they wish they had the chance to undo it but don't have the heart to tell you.
2007-03-17 00:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by copperhead89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Sleep with them.
2007-03-17 00:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by Buckwheat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋