I've been keeping a close eye on my boyfriend for a few months and I've found some numbers in his cell that were suspicious. One number in particular as to where he would call her and she'd call him and talk for hours while I'm at school or work. I'd ask him about it and he'd lie lie lie but he was so "Baby, I love you, and we're getting married, and I wouldn't do anything to hurt you" I thought our relationship was going great, I made him the love of my life!!! Now, I can't trust him and I love him still but i dont wonna leave him because I can't put myself up to it....so what do I do? He swears that he loves me and he wants to be with me and he never cheated just talked on the phone to her...he even told me that i'll never get to the bottom of the story because the gurlz jealous and will lie!!He thinks I shouldn't be mad and he wants to start over but its not that easy ya kno. I'm confused....should I just leave him?????
2007-03-16 17:20:29 · 10 answers · asked by chocolateflavadgurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think if you have lost the trust in the relationship, then there is nothing left. Maybe he didn't actually do anything with those girls, but there could be a possibility that he will in the future. This could be a sign that he has cheated or has the potential to cheat. If he is lying about this, you don't know what else he could have lied about. I think the reason why you are still in this relationship is b/c you want to hold on to something that is not worth holding on to. Only you can make that ultimate choice, but I suggest you move on. You will find someone that is devoted to you. If you are faithful and committed to this relationship, whoever you are with has to do the same. You have to be on the same page. I hope this helps. Take care.
2007-03-16 17:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by cereza713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually if a boy is talking to someone that long who's not a girlfriend, really close friend, or family member, then something's up. He may not be cheating on you at the moment but he's thinking about it or considering it. Take a break for a month or so and see if you really need him. You don't want to the make the mistake of marrying him if he's already considering the cheating route.
2007-03-17 00:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by Blythe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While talking may not justify leaving it does justify some of the alarms in your head that are going off, if you don't feel right about it then your instincts are usually right, listen to them. It is better to think about leaving now than after you are married. I would proceed carefully especially since he said the girl will just lie about their relationship, even before you've talked to her.
I would go ahead and call the girl and see what her story is. And if you get a feeling for what has been said. He may tell you not to call her because she doesnt know about you or he is lying to her.
You are worth more than this aggravation. You owe it to yourself to honestly find out what is going on.
2007-03-17 00:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was into you he would NOT be looking for action with another gal. He is scum- run and don't look back. Guys don't check other girls for social or friendly issues, they want to bed them any way possible. If you stay with him enjoy your std's, life of mistrust and do everything you wanted in life before your hiv+. You only have one life- make it count for something. Why be a mistress or a whore when you can find a real man that will make you his whole world. Good luck.
2007-03-17 00:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by copperhead89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry sweetie in my opinion I would honestly just leave him alone. Even if he didn't have sex with her he is still cheating because he is sharing certain parts of his heart with another girl besides you. I think he does love you but he is probably not ready fort he commitment and is scared to tell you. I honestly wish you the best of luck
2007-03-17 00:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating and trying to manipulate you into believing that the girl will lie because she's jealous. He just confirmed your fears....so you leave. If you stay...how many diseases and illegitimate children will it take for you to open your eyes and care about yourself?
2007-03-17 00:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me he dont want you to talk to the other girl to find out he truth i bet he told her you were a lier too i would talk to her any way but i would also end the relaionship you said there was more that one number who are the other number to more girls hes a player dump him and leave , i would talk to the girl in front of him and watch his face expressions ,,
2007-03-17 00:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by family fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think any man would be honest if they really cheated and once you have doubt in your love life things will never be the same
2007-03-17 00:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by melissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, he's a cheater. Are you prepared for married life with a cheater? Because he won't change.
2007-03-17 00:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If trust is gone, then everything is gone.
2007-03-17 00:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋