I heard that when you have a baby, your whole life changes. You no longer do things that make you happy (life goals, etc..) but now you are dedicated 100% of the time to a baby. I know that you love the baby, so you don't mind... but, man, isnt that alot to give up for 18 years of your life?
2007-03-16 17:08:37 · 44 answers · asked by B 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Its sooooo not worth it!
2007-03-16 17:12:29 · update #1
Are you kidding me ? When you have a baby it's the START of your life.Your whole life does change. It's not just 18 years either it's forever...Don't think of it as giving up time... think of it as a living legacy....Man it's procreation...that's why were here.
2007-03-16 17:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I thought the same thing....I am 26yrs old and I wanted children "one day"...so when I found a little over a year ago that I was 4 months pregant I was terrified...I think I cried for like a week straight... I thought that my life was over that I would never be able to do anything that I wanted ever again...SO I made a vow that I would not be one of "those mothers" that could only talk about being pregant or their children and seemed to lose interest in anything that didnt involve babies. I would still meet with my friends like I used to and do all of the things that I wanted...I would just find a sitter...
And then you know what...it just kinda happened...all of the stuff that was so important to you before the baby goes away...I mean its still there and still important but no where near as important as your baby...That stuff will always be there, but babies grow up....quickly...and you dont want to miss a minute of it...the older that they get the less dependant they become upon you and the more freedom that you have...
I wouldn't say that you stop doing what you enjoy, what you enjoy doing just changes.
2007-03-16 17:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by jess_pickel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yeah you give up a lot when you have a baby. But you know, most people do it & still find a way to live their lives. You have daycare when you work, you have sitters when you want to go out, you do what you gotta do. It's great, but there are huge sacrifices. Life is very different, for sure, but if you are thoughtful - think about it - and you really want a baby & know what kind of commitment & sacrifice that requires, and you still want a child, then you'll be like most parents & agree that those sacrifices are the best choices you ever made in your life & you'll never regret having your children.
2007-03-16 17:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by sweet pea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why you should enjoy and get a good education and a good career going before you have children. That way when your ready to have children you can have money saved and know that your education is out of the way and then go back to work when your ready to after you have children. It is not that your whole life changes, it is that you want that change in your life. Some people decide they don't want children because of the commitment it takes. Which is fine. Other people want to raise children, and devote their lives to raising them. Your life will change but not necessarily for the 18 years, it goes beyond, it's just that for 18 years in the USA you are responsible for them financially and by law. It definately will change how you do things for 18 years though, but you can still have a life, especially if your financially and mentally set to have children. You just juggle things differently than you do when your without children.
2007-03-16 17:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on your age, a baby is not a doll and yes you have to make sacrifices for the next 18-20 years of your life. Your children will have to come first and your life goes on the back burner. Therefore teenagers should never have children because they have not experienced life and are not mature enough to deal with all the stuff they do have to give up. People in their middle 20's who had a great youth with parties etc and now have a good career can be ready to have children.
2007-03-16 17:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I have a little girl that is 18 months old and I just found out i'm expecting again. I wouldn't say you have to give up your life i would just say that you have more people to share it with. But if your thinking about having a baby make sure that you are out of school. Trying to balance school and mother hood is pretty hard, so before you do it remember its not just for 18 years it a lifetime!
2007-03-16 17:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by mommy92305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is true. when you have a child you are to dedicate your life 100 percent to that child. but that child SHOULD be your life anyways - so technically you are still dedicated to your life. You should never have a baby if you are still a little selfish. Once you have a child you are responsible for another person's life. My husband and I joke everytime we go shopping that we always leave the house to get something for ourselves and return with ten bags full of stuff for the kids. It is rewarding to love your children. just don't do it when you are selfish.
2007-03-16 17:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have children you definitely do something that makes you happy - you become a mother!
Being a parent is a big deal but remember someone did it for you. They gave you life, made sacrifices for you...
It's a lot to give up but the rewards are infinite. When your baby so much as smiles at you I swear you just go straight to Heaven. It's amazing! You would do anything for them!
It's kind of like being in love. :-)
2007-03-16 17:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by Veritas 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is true. You lose alot of your identity, you whole focus is your kids. You will question every decision you make and you will have to give up pretty much everything that you now enjoy. With that in mind it is also wonderful in so many ways, hard but wonderful. I have three kids and a loving husband and everyday there is some kind of meltdown with someone, mess and difficulty. But it is really worth it. But no matter how ready you think you are, you really are never prepared for how much will change. I wouldn't change anything though. And now that my youngest will be in school full time next year I am starting to get some of my identity back and it feels great!
2007-03-16 17:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by cooltoque 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Well I will tell you this much...I had my daughter that will be two in another 2 days at the age of 17...I gave up all my teenager stuff that I enjoyed doing but she became my life not something I regreted or didn't want to do. Once you hold that baby in your arms you realize that you want to do everything to take care of them and raise them well. So basically you do give up alot of "freedom" but it has to be more about the child than yourself
2007-03-16 17:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋