Okay I'm turning 17 in a few months.
I had sex with my boyfriend. Only once.
I did it because I felt I was ready. But after I realized that I did not wanna do it anymore. He was always just talking about having sex. I felt like sex was the only important thing left in our relationship. So, I dumped him because I felt like he was just using me for sex. Do you think I made the right choice?
And my friend said that it's going to be VERY hard to get over him because we had sex. Is it true?
2007-03-16 16:49:03 · 18 answers · asked by itstoolate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks everyone.
I know I've made a mistake and yes I've learnt from it.
I have decided to take a break and concentrate on my studies. I do have goals and I've been working hard since Grade 9 to achieve them. I've been a straight A's student and I did not let my relationship affect my grades.
Anyway, about getting over him. I think I am doing a pretty good job. Now that I know I've made the right decision, I think it's going to be even easier.
It's amazing. I still do think about him, but I never MISS him. I don't need him to be here.
And I made a promise to myself: No more sex till marriage.
2007-03-16 17:19:01 · update #1
If you felt pressured you have done the right thing, don't worry about your friend, sex or no sex you will take your time to get over him, but it would have taken you a lot longer if you were in a relationship where you were not comfortable and things end with you feeling used. You have ended things with you coming out on top and feeling in control of yourself. You have done something many girls can't proving you are strong, and will get over him and move on. Good LUCK!!
2007-03-16 16:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am 17 turning 18 in a month or so, and I am still a virgin, but I think you made the right choice. I mean you both have to be ready, even for your second time having sex with him. It might take you some time to get over him, but think about it, would you really want a relationship that is only about sex. I mean wouldn't you rather take a little while to get over the guy, then have a relationship with late night movies, dinners, cuddling time, then when your in the mood and he is to, have sex. :)
2007-03-16 23:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by aim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey i will say this you're not the first one that has done that and want be the last. Sex is something sacred and should be held on to as long as possible cause once you give it up honey you can't get it back. but since you have yes i think you did right by dumping him cause its clear that he had one thing on his mind, but just remember next time to just wait cause sex is not everything in a relationship and if i guy really loves you he will not nag you about it an wait until you are ready.And last but not least the getting over him part it will be easy just think about it like he never loved me for me he just wanted me for sex and that should give you the strength to move on and just no next time to wait OK. Good luck.
2007-03-17 00:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely did the right thing by getting out of a relationship that was based only on sex.
But just as definitely, you did a silly thing in having sex in the first place. For the rest of your life, whenever someone brings up the topic of "the first time", you will think back to that guy and how sex was all he wanted from you. Not a pleasant memory.
2007-03-16 23:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer this question, but if you truly believe all he was interested in you was sex, then you did the right thing. It will be hard getting over him if you had feelings for him, whether you had sex or not. The sex is just one more item that you have to deal with, and if your not ready for more and that is all he wants, it may even be easier to get over it.
2007-03-16 23:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you made the right choice and no I don't think it's going to be hard for you to get over him but your the only one that really knows. How do you feel about him right now? Doesn't sound like you care one way or the other.
2007-03-16 23:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still so young. and you have a life to go out and find. Don't let sex, get in your way of living life. let him go if that is what it felt like all he wanted. you can find much better in time. right now, if I were you, and I was once. I would go and figure out what I want to do with my life, and then start making some goals towards your future. my mistake in my life was getting involved with relationships instead of getting involved creating a future for myself financially.
men will come and go, and you will have plenty of time to meet the one that treats you well. don't stress on that, it will happen. but a woman who can take care of herself and has a bright future planned out will never have a problem finding a man.. guarantee ya that one. honey. sex isn't everything.
2007-03-16 23:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heey, if he whus your first then there is always gunna be somethen there for him doesnt mean u wont be abke to move on but your always gunna have a special little somthen for him deep down !.. but if he onyl wanted sex and nothen els .. i hope u tryed talkin to him before .. u should jus tell him, i think all u want form me is sex, and its scaring me knwoing that.. is it true .. or do u really wanna be with me because u love me or enjoy spending time with me !.. somethen like that !.. but if he wasnt your first nawh, it wont be so hard to get over him .. hes gunna be in the apst before u know it !.. but if u think u did the wrong thing by letting him go ! .. juss talk to him about it and see if u guys can get back together and think of sex as somethen to do on special occasions.. or when u feel right about doen it !.. you should never feel like your being pushed into somethen u dunt wana do gurl ! =) .. dunt worry about it!.. if he thinks ur his sex toy then find someone who will want you for other things then sex !.. because im shure your an awesome gurl who has alot more to offer !
2007-03-16 23:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Sharpeil. You've been there, you learnt from it, and now your moving on. I believe you are over him. You seem to be more mature than most 17 year olds. And yes, you made the right choice. You will find someone who likes you for who you are.
2007-03-17 00:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by Silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him , that both of you will have unlimited erotic sex together, after you get married. You cannot be used if you true to yourself , and to others. God Bless. Have Faith Girl, WE cannot go anywhere in this world if we keep pushing people away, specially people that we have a deep connection with , just because we have a victim conscience. You are not a victim. If you do have that deep unreal connection with him , do not push him away. Life is to short. Stay in touch with him, with the sex or without.
2007-03-17 00:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋