I have told him my feelings on it.. I don't like it and don't agree with it, due to the fact that it's illegal and the long-term physical effects. I hate to see him smoke and know that he could be hurting himself. It also doesn't help that I can't even be around it due to heart problems.. but he won't stop. He just says its nothing bad and he could be doing worse things, and that I should get over it. He says he'll smoke the rest of his life.. I don't want this around my future children. He smokes maybe twice a week... should I compromise and let him keep going, or get rid of him?
2007-03-16 16:47:50 · 31 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never settle for a person that isnt right because then you are missing out on what could be a perfect person for you! Try to compromise and see if he'll at least cut back, in a healthy relationship their is always compromise, and if not then find someone that will make you happier.
2007-03-16 16:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by knowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the filthy bum. Trust me you don't want to be marrying this dude. He'll be stoned all the time and wont be good for anything except eating all the food and laying around the house. Plus you will always be living with the thought that he will get busted and you could possibly be busted as an accessory...oh and if the stuff is found in the car while you are driving your car can legally be impounded. Want you future kids addicted because daddy does it "so why can't I? " plus the second hand smoke damage that you will inflict on yourself and your kids. Did I mention the bad rep you will receive in the town once people know what goes on at the house? The decision is obvious....if he cared then why would be shove it in your face and blatantly refuse to give up? Looks like you have taken second place to drugs so what does that say about his level of respect for you?
2007-03-16 16:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by Aaron S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure, compromise.Here are the risks that go with it: You will be supporting him because he wont be able to pass a drug test to get/keep a job, he will spend the bill money for weed, your kids will grow up to smoke it and do harder drugs, there will be trouble with the law, being evicted etc till death do you part.You will live with any relative who will take you in until you "get on your feet again" after the evictions.If this kind of life looks exciting and apealing to you, then yes, by all means compromise, heck even learn to smoke it yourself.He has stated he isnt going to quit, so either dump him or join him.
2007-03-16 16:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that's something that you do not agree with and see this has being a serious problem in the future, I think that you should not compromise. And since he has made it clear that he doesn't not see a problem with it, don't think that you can change him. I think that if you stay with him you will be settling for less b/c he doesn't possess everything that you want in a man. I believe that you will find a b/f that does have the same beliefs as you. I hope this helps. Take care.
2007-03-16 17:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by cereza713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him his penis is not like it used to be and his testicles are shrinking. Both problems associated with pot. Then ask him if the thinks the pot could be doing it???
Something like that will get a guys attention faster than preaching.
And Good Luck, that stuff doesn't do any healthy person any good at all. Where I live if drugs, including pot, are found in a search the police can (they don't always do it) seize the vehicle or home where they find it. So if you own the home and he is not on the deed, and the cops find the stuff you can loose your house. That may or may not be true where you live.
2007-03-16 16:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends.
If you did talk to him about it. You should try to talk to him more about it. Try to research and gather infos what would happen to him if he still gonna keep on smoking weed. And then, tell him you care about him a lot thats why your doing this for his own good and you love him a lot and you dont want to loose him because of it.
If he doesnt listen maybe you should try to leave him and see what would be his reaction if his willing to give up smoking for you because he loves you too as much as you love him. But if he just doesnt care maybe your better off without him. Even if hurts you a lot.
Theres a lot of guys out there whos better than him. If ever!!!
I'm not saying do it and leave him....
Think first before you do something..then decide....
Think what would be the outcome if your willing to stay or willing to leave him.
2007-03-16 17:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by MizBeingCute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, just drop him NOW! He is showing an utter lack of respect as he knows your reservations and how it is affecting you physically but yet he doesn't seem to care. He appears to have no regard for your health, his life/future, and this relationship. This issue is wearing your relationship thin. He should be dropping this bad habit or at least trying to make attempts to rid himself of the blunts. His love isn't so deep, so drop him now before things get worse.
2007-03-16 17:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marijuana doesn't always cause problems but it ussually does and if it doesn't it probably speaks to his personality that he will develop other problems in the future. What will they be? Other drugs? Drop out of school? Get fired from his job every 6 months? Cheat on you?
Do you really want to stick around to find out?
Why do women ask questions they already know the answer to?
2007-03-16 16:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by H M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide for yourself every line of a relationship you are going to draw.
It's best to decide early on in your life what you want and don't want in a mate and what you will and wont tolerate in bahaviors.
Many young girls give up the morals of what they believe in and want for the sake of the realtionship with the guy. I am hear to tell you ladies... those high school relationships are usually not the ones you keep long term, because you will settle for less in HS to keep him and when you get older you get stronger and demand more.
2007-03-16 16:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him. in the long run, if he does keep smoking, nothing good will come out of this relationship. if ur so against this and he really loves you and cares about u, he would at least attempt to quit. he could be doing worse things, but that is still no excuse for doing it.
2007-03-16 16:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by nicole r 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋