My long time boyfriend (gary) has a problem in the bedroom department, he has major gas and doesn't pleasure me long enough, very quick if you get what i mean, and is effecting my relationship with him.
Any advise will be very helpful!
2007-03-16 16:28:56 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont rely too much on ur physical relationship. that isnt healthy for the both of you
2007-03-16 16:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by vrules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I'd tell him the gas stuff has to go or no more bedroom. He can see a doctor about it for that is not normal and I would thnk he'd be embarassed and if not I would end all intimate contact for would mean hes a Boor(very common,unclassy kind of guy). The other I would tell him too for you're not there for him to get off and if he cared about you would be making the needed effort to have this be a fulfilling relationship for you. Sounds like hes still very immature,very self centered-I'd even say selfish. But unless you tell him he'll continuefor may be too dense to pick up on your dissatisfaction. If after you tell him the situation remains the same then say goodbye for it'll mean he lacks character.
2007-03-16 16:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the gas could be down to his diet.. many diferent foods and drivks can produce gas. so get him to try to modify his diet.
as for the time he does not spend on pleasuring you that means he is a selfish lover and is only after pleasing himself at your expense. So either tell him where he is going wrong clearly, if he is as he seems a selfish lover he will take this as you just complianing for no reason. if he cares for you he will be all apologetic and try harder and longer next time.
if he does not then all you can do is to dump him and find a guy who is able to give yu what you need when you need it.
but talking to him is your first option as if he does not know that these problems are upsetting you and are threatening the relationship how will he be able to resolve the problems for the better.
but as i said this is going to be offensive to his pride and ego if you are complaining. he will most likely shout and swear and he may even go red but you have to tell him where he is going wrong.
remember life is too long to spend your time with people and things that are not pleasing to you for example.
you have to do what is right for you, even if in this case it means the guy being hurt by the complaints you have about his bedroom skills or should that be lack of skills. Remember he will be hurt when you mention his bedroom skills so be prepared for him to lashout with complaints about your bedrooms skills (that may or may not be valid).
good luck. remember if he fails to change his ways there are plenty more guys out there that would be happy to take his place in your bedroom.
2007-03-16 16:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Lets get real here.. Some of us enjoys good sex and there is nothing wrong with that especially if you already have a steady partner. Get him to get help with the gas problem. Loads of stuff on the market that you can buy over the counter, no excuse for that. As for him lasting long. Dont put too much emphasis on it, but you both need to take time with each other, dont rush it, lots of stroking and playing. U know ... the stuff they have in books these days. Tell him what you like and find out what he likes and try out some little game playing/roleplaying that sort of thing. Introduce some toys too that you both can play with. Here's your chance to tailor make it to what you both like. And have fun.
2007-03-17 00:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by chiccigyal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion is to talk to him, try to solve out the problem as a couple. u have ur necesities as well, and he should try to understand how u feel. probably if u talk to him, he might be able to control his "major gas" and pleasure u for longer. if it doesnt work, u should tell him that probably everything happens for a reason. that u guys are better off as friends, and hopefully u guys will find some1 better to be with. however, i strongly advice u to try to solve it out together, im sure u r with him because u really like him - probably love him- u know him well enough, and u will probably have a hard time to find someone u can addapt to. u said its only about the "major gas" that u r not satisfied with, so im pretty sure that u do have a good relationship. I hope tht everyting works out for the best, but before anything, agian, TRY TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM BY TALKING TO HIM.
2007-03-16 16:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all....you need to discuss his diet with him. And, if adjusting it doesn't help, he may need meds for excessive gas.
Secondly, you need to very gently explain to him that you enjoy being with him so much that you wish it could last a little longer. Be very careful how you say this....a mans ego is a delicate thing.
Mention how much fun it would be if he got some of the meds to help his erections last longer. Explain that there are LOTS of guys using these medications now, and there is certainly no shame in it.
Most of all, let him know you love him no matter what...and don't approach him in a manner that makes him feel pressured. That would make him worse.
Good Luck!
2007-03-16 16:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by treefrog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you talk to him about the matters that concern you? This should help a little. About the gas im assuming get it ASSuming lol ok sorry i had to point that out. Anyways im assuming that he has a bladder problem or somthing i suggest you take him to a doc to see if he needs some med.
About the pleasing part that is somthing no one can do to help. Every person is different.
2007-03-16 16:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the gas thing prolly has something to do with what he eats. try to make sure he eats a little bit healthier. to help coming up short in the pleasure department, try different positions. or even go as far as once he orgasims try going at it again about 15 minutes later. i am almost sure he will last longer because he just emptied and it will take a lot longer to finish...hope that helps
2007-03-16 16:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, gas should not tear love apart. Some people just have more gas than others. Maybe buy air freshener to take out some smell. But if u love him enough, gas wont tear you apart.
2007-03-16 16:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by Kandi :P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
five years down the road you will be so fed up with it and want out of the relationship. i guess he could take some beano or something to help his gas problem and spend lots of money and go to sex therapists, but i doubt it will change much, really. He can be taught how to please you and maybe work at it, but how much fun will that be knowing its not his desire. get out now and find someone you will be compatible with.
2007-03-16 16:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he cums doesn't mean he can't still touch you and try to help you reach orgasm. or ask him to focus on you for longer before having sex. talk to him about what you want! don't know what to do about the gas though. might just have to get over that one. unless he eats poorly or a lot of beans - the obvious stuff - i don't know anything else to do on that front. good luck!
2007-03-16 16:32:57 · answer #11 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋