I have no self confidence at the moment. I am 23 and when i was at school i was really popular with loads of confidence. Things have rapidly changed and i cant pin point when. I tend to go all shy and blush when talking to certain folk. I just want things to be back to normal. Please help!!
2007-03-16 16:28:40 · 8 answers · asked by kris d 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
what are you good at? whatever that or those things is or are, do that. accomplish something, especially if it has to do with dealing with other people. when I suffer from this, I submerge myself in busy-ness, help other people whenever possible, and do whatever else not to be alone. get engaged in intelligent conversations with others. sometimes I really have to push myself out of my head and my apartment to do this. but it does seem to work. volunteer for some good cause, even if it's just a spring clean up by an environmental group on a particular segment of land, or go to a nursing home and ask who needs a visitor, and go visit them. meals on wheels always needs extra help. do something different and get yourself out of your same old head. it seems to work wonders.
2007-03-16 16:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by Auntie M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a reason for that|
There is a terrible thing that many people do that is now popular|
When you are in a group, they could be dissing you or throwing you off in subtle ways - letting off little chuckles when you say something - going deadpan when you tell a real joke, making you believe that you said something foolish - when you try to speak to a person, you find that person suddenly turns around and starts talking to someone else (what a coincidence, eh!) - Saying something to each other which seems to be related to something about you, but you can't quite catch it| Taking you to task for inconsequential errors (such as the slight mispronunciation of a word)|
All that is a form of psychological warfare that is now quite common, and many people have been broken by it, not knowing what has happened. They are thus reduced to incapacity in their social, love, and work life - and what is more cruel still - is that when the person has been reduced to such, these same terrorists diss and mock your incompetence|
It is all meant to take place below your conscious awareness, but if you do become aware of it and call them on it, they charge you with paranoia|
It is a phenomenon that is so evil, that the likes of it has never been seen before|
We are now living in interesting times|
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2007-03-17 01:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It not good to be so low in confidence, it ok to be caution of who you talk to, but having low confidence can end u up in depression. All you have to do find out what motivates you to be yourself when you was in school, if you don't remember, then there many selection to choose from. 1.if you love to write just write about it. 2. contact one of your good friends that you feel comfortable around. 3. Go to a good church not where the fake prayers are at. 4. Get a dog that you love walking around. 5. Listen to music motivates you in a positive way. 6. If you close family members just kick off your shoes and relax your feet, party on down to the Xscape beat.
Just kick it. Just kick it, just kick it. (let party lol). 7. Always remember beauty run inside of you and outside. 8. You have to break yourself out that and live your life, you only have one life to live, if lucky, you'll be reborn. Hey I'm year older, wipe your tears and don't be afraid don't let your heart be weak because there is a lot life in you. You have excellent potenial it just up to you to change back to the good old times you remember the popular person with the loads of confidence. Don't be shy and blushing bring up your self-esteem look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are gorgeous, beautiful, who you are why are you here, it like therpy but it free, but don't stay to long because michael jackson found out there was a man in the mirror and look what happen to him (lol). Go and have fun with your life but don't over do it. self cautious trust your instinct a woman instinct is her best friend it the survival of nature. I you just hope you would before time live your life. take care just chill you can follw my steps and make some up on your own that will be your confidence up. Balance yourself like yin and yang and you'll be back to yourself again. Don't mess with medicine it good for your mind. PEACE ONE LOVE
2007-03-17 01:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Spiritual and Philosopher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to know yourself and see your strenghts, be very aware of them , then just stop caring about what people think, and believe in yourself and your fabulous self. Think of yourself as the king of the world, without being arrogant of course...good luck.
2007-03-17 01:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by Katiegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You minght need to get on a mild antideression pill. I know that I have the same problem and it really helps. You could always pray about it too :o) Hope this helps-
2007-03-16 23:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by shakypudding42 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
get some counselling. it really does help. a good counsellor will help you figure out why you changed and get you back to being your old self. trust me. been there.
2007-03-17 00:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by neonjack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem myself many years ago. I cured it by acting. Act like someone who is very confidat
2007-03-16 23:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Belive in yourself. see your self doubt as what it is, doubt not certainty.
2007-03-16 23:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by Yoda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋