The problem is there is no sexual chemistry and I think that is important even though a lot of other things are positive. We have been seeing each other for about 5 months and the sex part just does not click. She is a great person but that need is not being met. How do you explain this to a really good person?
2007-03-16 16:20:56 · 12 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when a woman feels honored and loved she will pretty much do anything to please her man.. an inhibited-type woman can be turned into a wild woman with the right coaxing. personally, i like when my man tells me he's been thinking about me all day and can't wait until the kids go to bed etc. (even if it's a lie, being treated like a sex-godess kind of pushes you into the role)
it's so difficult to find someone after divorce w/kids. it's worth giving it a try, but if it doesn't work, move on. you don't want to be sleeping with something -like-your sister!
2007-03-16 16:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by snapper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyting is about sex. just tell her that u really love her, but for a while back now, u ve been thinking of her as a friend and u dont feel that much of a chemistry between u 2. i dont think u should tell her its because of the bad sex, but be gentle with her, and tell her u d wish u guys were just friends, that u kinda feel her as a sister or smething. but that u dont feel right having a relationship with her, and if u keep on with a relationship, then u think that u will both eventually get tiredof each other and feel frustrated. remember u went through a divorce, u could tell her some of ur examples of why u decided to divorce, and that u wouldnt want to end ur relationship like that. tell her that u wanna keep being friends that u wouldnt like to hurt her, or be hurt in the process.
2007-03-16 23:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could always try that suggestion they had on Sienfield. Ask her if she wants to have a threesome with some other girl. LOL. The way this story is supposed to play out is she will think you are a sicko and ditch you quick style. On the ohter hand she may be into it and bring another girl home and maybe that will spice up your sex life. LOL.
2007-03-16 23:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You re-evaluate your priorities, if necessary with the help of a professional counsellor. Do you have any idea how much most single parents would give for a new partner who is, in your own words, "wonderful with the kids, smart, pretty and a great friend"?
2007-03-16 23:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still thinking about your ex. She was a part of you for how many years?
There is something that you're missing about your ex and the new person cannot fill that part. You are comparing her to your ex (you may be denying this - but it's true). That's how I see it.
Don't drag it too long. Be very gentle with her and tell her that you are not ready emotionally.
2007-03-16 23:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you do explain it to her, because that will hurt her feelings.
Maybe just tell her that you are not ready to commit to another relationship at this time, and that you would like to see other people.
I realize that will hurt her feelings too, but rather that than tell her there is no sexual chemistry.
Either way, she is going to be hurt if she has feelings for you, but I think it's best to go the kinder gentler route.
2007-03-16 23:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her about it and try mixing things up a little bit. Maybe see a sex therapist if that doesn't work. Sounds crazy, but such people exist, and this sounds like a woman you really don't want to lose.
2007-03-16 23:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooo ahh thats a hard one. I dont have an answer. But best of luck <3
2007-03-16 23:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetchicky292 @ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be really nice and tell her at this time you're not getting what you need. because the button line is you have to do what is going to make you happy
2007-03-16 23:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you Explained it to Us.....be very tactful though.
2007-03-16 23:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋