Excessive Worrier?

Question

My boyfriend worrys way to much about everything. Even if it's a little problem. What could be wrong with him, and what should we do?

Could it be generalized anxiety disorder? Also, I don't think it's OCD. I suffer from OCD and he does not show the signs or symptoms of this disorder

Answer 1

I too am an excessive worrier. Have you noticed that it runs in the family? Being a worry wort is not only annoying, but it's unhealthy. Stress is a major cause for many health problems. I have no clue why people, including myself, are like this, but there are a few things he can do to help. Exercise, this really does help clear your mind and relax you, especially if you do something like walking or yoga. Reassure him often that everything is fine. The more ways he can find to relax, the better!!!! Try giving him herbal, caffeine free, chamomile tea. Also, something that really works is a little lavender essential oil. Tell him to put it on all his pulse points. Lavender will help relax, calm, and soothe his mind. It really does work!!! However, make sure he's not allergic. I really hope you try these things, they worked wonders for me!!!!!! It's better than being doped up on prescriptions. :)

Answer 2

Hi,
Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD) and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder can only really be considered for diagnosis depending on how much the symptoms affect your life.

That is, if you run through 7 bars of soap each morning just washing your hands, and as a result you are late to work each day, and hence today you get fired, that would probably be enough to classify this behaviour as "problematic" and hence you would consider OCD as a possible diagnosis, among other things.

Likewise, GAD, also has a certain set of criteria, that are only really applicable, if the symptoms your boyfriend are experiencing are really debilitating.

Does his anxiety bother him? Does it intefere with his educational/occupational pursuits? Does he abuse substances/alcohol to "calm himself down" prior to doing something he knows will bring on his anxiety?

If the answer to all of the above is no, you have to ask yourself, if your boyfriend has to, for example, have to check all the locks before you leave home each day, taking you maybe an extra 2 minutes of your time, is it really that bad?

I guess what I am trying to say is "if it aint broke, dont try to fix it".

I see alot of cases in this profession that are simply beyond any help, so believe me, there are much more important things to worry about.

Answer 3

Perhaps it is OCD? I've got it too, and part of the disease involves obsessive worrying about crazy little things in your life, like a leaky faucet, say. (The other part seems to be the physical "checking" rituals.) If you do find an answer, let me know. I'm considering medication myself.

Answer 4

I was going to say OCD, because I am OCD and I worry about everything. Maybe anxiety.

Answer 5

Some people are just natural worriers. However, some people with excessive worrying find anti-anxiety medications very helpful. If you two can live with it, no big deal. If it is interferring with your lives, talk to his doctor.

Answer 6

I think that you should talk to him. Tell him that you can do things right and what could be wrong with him is that he might feel he needs to protect you. Try to convince him that he is the only one, or you can also try counceling. It is also good to talk to others, maybe close friends or his friends, he might be going through something you do not know. good luck to you and your boyfriend.

Answer 7

He needs to work out the stress with exercise. He can journel what is stressing him. Sometimes it helps just putting it down. Try to listen but not solve the problem. Sometimes people just need to vent it out.

Answer 8

could be anxiety, i feel that way to and my family and friends say i worry way to much, i would talk to a counsler see maybe like a marriage counsler so you both know what is wrong and can both work to treat it

Answer 9

He is obsessive/compulsive. He needs to talk to a Dr. There are meds that can help him.

Answer 10

see a Psychologist. he or she can helpl