My 5 year old sister is driving the whole house crazy. She can't stand playing dolls by herself, or going to the bathroom without someone standing outside the door. Can you give me tips on how to solve this?
2007-03-16 16:09:30 · 6 answers · asked by Goose Feet 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You need to find out what she is scared of. There but me something keeping her from going off on her own. Try to talk to her.
2007-03-16 16:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a big deal about how big of a girl she is when she does something independently. As for playing dolls by herself, well who likes to play alone? Nightmares well when she has one,
go in and reasure her everything is ok. That is going to take awhile to work. Sounds like this little on has been given into,
don't get me wrong sometimes is ok not all the time tho.
Ok, tip one make a chart and everytime she does something by herself give her a sticker on the chart after so many stickers she gets a reward (we had a treasure chest with goodies from the dollor tree.)
tip 2 maybe playdates and quiet time to teach her that people
need time do their own things.
tip 3 explain to her that going potty is a private thing and she is a big girl.
Also your parents should be the ones to enforce this with you or it will never work.
Good Luck
Morgaine
2007-03-16 23:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a child, I too was just like your sister. When I had kids, I worried that they would be just like I was, yet they aren't. My son likes to keep his closet light on, and his bedroom door open, then my daughter wants her door closed and the lights off.
Something that we heard not too long ago,was a spray bottle with plain water in it. Dress it up a little, and call it Monster Spray, or what ever is bothering her. Maybe a TV in her room with cartoons playing while she plays. maybe she just needs noise. I thought that someone was ALWAYS gonna "get me", when I was little. My grandmother and great grand mother would tell me someone would kidnap me, so thus, even going to the bathroom at home was a BIG DEAL. She will out grow it, but she might be 31 and have 2kids of her own.
Good luck!
2007-03-16 23:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, every kid is different; this is something that seems to hit about this age, and time usually helps (although it can take years to fully disappear). You can help by not teasing her, by talking and listening to her, and being reassuring. Some kids find having a special doll or stuffed animal to sleep with helps. I doubt that trying to talk her out of it will be very effective - these sorts of fears are purely irrational and not really subject to "training" or logic. Be patient and give it time - the more confident she becomes, the less trhis is likely to be a problem. I'm sure it drives you crazy when she needs your help, but it's worth it to be a good sister now; you save yourself a _lot_ of grief down the road!
2007-03-16 23:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"...playing dolls by herself?" Is she like... scared?
Some adults in a very juvenile move, take their young kids with them to the movies- any movie, no matter how horrifying or bloody or intimate, just because they don't want to hire a babysitter. If the kid has seen a horror flick or two, you can't blame them for a sudden fear.
I don't know if this is the cause or not, but I had to ask.
2007-03-16 23:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a doctor who can figure things like that out
2007-03-16 23:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Campbells Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋