cutting myself?

Question

im 13 ive been cutting myself what should I do I dont want to tell anyone I just want it to stop and go away! I have no friends except one and I hate my life I need help!????i dont know what to do!

Answer 1

I know that you don't want to tell anyone you cut, but I bet you'll feel better if you do. I used to cut (up until about four weeks ago), and I kept it a secret for three years. I never wanted anyone to know, but I felt a lot better when I finally did tell someone.

I didn't have many friends either when I was your age. I just had one friend, and she didn't even go to my school. I moved across the country when I was 11, and didn't really make many friends at my new school, and then my only friend changed schools after 6th grade. I bet you look at all the other girls in your class, and they look like they have lots of friends and are really happy, right? Yeah, that's about how everyone I know felt when they were 13. Even though the other girls may look happy and look like they have lots of friends, most of them probably don't feel that way, and almost all of them have problems of some sort. It's pretty much just a sucky year for girls.

But telling you that lots of girls are unhappy at your age doesn't really fix anything. Things will get better on their own over time, but you don't just have to wait it out and go on feeling bad until then. I know you don't want to tell anyone about the cutting, but can you talk to anything about other things that are bothering you? Like what's making you feel bad in the first place? Try to talk to your parents or other adult relative, a school counselor, or a favorite teacher. Those are all people who care about you and want to help you. I know that it can sometimes be hard to talk adults about things, but remember that they were all 13 once, and most of them still remember what it feels like.

You might also want to talk to your parents about taking you to see a doctor. Even if you don't want to tell the doctor about the cutting, there may be medications that can help you feel better. When I stopped cutting was actually when I started taking medication for ADHD, which I think helped because I could get my work done more easily so I was less stressed out, and also because they often have a mild antidepressant effect. There isn't necessarily a medication that will work for you, and medication definitely won't mean that you don't still have to deal with things, but it's worth talking to a doctor about since there may be something that could help.

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Answer 2

I'm a mom of an almost 15 year old daughter who has been "cutting" for over 2 years. Some of her friends ratted on her to the school counselor that she was having a bad episode of it and he called me. I had NO idea she was that depressed, she hid it so well. We now have her in counseling and immediately she felt better and has not cut for 2 months now. Getting it all in the open really helped. Also, don't worry about your parents ragging on you, the therapist will tell them not to. Just the fact that they know about it and they will tell you to come to them if you want and that they are there for you whenever you need them. Talk to your school counselor and I promise it's the secret that is the real pain, let that out and you will feel much better. I also teach Jr. High (at the same school as my daughter) so I know what an epidemic this cutting thing is, you wouldn't believe how many girls are doing it.

Answer 3

This sounds serious, i do feel for u, it must be very difficult for u at the moment. My advice would be to speak to either: 1) A teacher at school u get on particuarly well with. 2) A doctor (in confidence) 3) your best friend. 4) Samaritans or Mind advice line. You could tell ur parents, but this is difficult as you are likely to feel very embarassed and stupid. In addition, u will probably be wondering whether or not they will understand how u have been feeling and why u have been cutting urself? Sometimes its best if it comes of another adult such as a teacher or doctor as ur parents are more likely to take it in better. Please just speak to someone you feel comfortable with. There are many people/professionals out there who can help you. Dont hide away in shame, you know what you have to do!!

THINK about when u are an adult..... u could help those overcome what you are feeling now, if u speak up now and get help! best of luck xx

Answer 4

I know you don't want to tell anyone but you have to if you want to get better. I think you know that or you wouldn't have pointed it out right away.

Honey, 13 is a horribly hard time in life. I know - I was there too (not so long ago, I'm in my early 20's now). I was also this depressed (maybe even moreso) when I was there. Later on I finally did talk to my mom about how awful it was - she wished so much that I had told her back then. It would have made a world of difference for me if I had.

Don't make my mistake - talk to your parents or any adult you trust. You probably would benefit from seeing a professional psychologist or psychiatrist. Please keep an open mind about that. No one - besides your parents - has to know that you're seeing someone if you choose not to tell them. But the nature of your problem really calls for that kind of help. If you reach out to someone who can help you and get the help you need it will stop and go away. and life WILL get better.

hang in there and please talk to someone.

Answer 5

First and foremost you should tell someone; a parent, a trusted adult such as a teacher, coach, pastor, family doctor, etc. You don't want to but there are no miracle cures for this. There is obviously a root cause of your cutting. Something inside that causes you pain. I had a friend who would cut herself. Her pain came from the fact that she got drunk at a party and was raped. She never told anyone and blamed herself for getting drunk and losing control. You must figure out the cause and talk about it. My friend was told to paint the area she wanted to cut or to tear up newspaper until the urge to cut passed. This is not a cure, just a way to cope. Please confide in someone that can help you.

Answer 6

Talk to your guidance counsellor if you feel you cant tell your friends or family! I know the guidance counsellor I had always kept our conversations confidential, plus you dont have to pay a real therapist.

Everytime you think about hurting yourself, maybe try writing instead? I'm sure if you continued you do it, you'd be hurting your friend as well.

PS - You're 13. It's okay to be a little unsure of yourself. Things will get better, this I promise you.

Answer 7

Look this is the hardest part of your life I know I was the same way I tried to commit suicide when I was 16. I about killed my family in a car accident. I felt responsiable for it I know though from first hand expierience going down the road of life. Just trust me. If you got anything you wana chat about I always got an open ear freedom_rocker_04 on messanger

Answer 8

If this is a joke, there are better, more positive ways to get attention.

If this is a serious problem then you can talk to someone. Your life has value. You are important. Find someone to serve who has problems that are similar or worse then yours and help them out, you'll forget about your own problems this way and realize that you can affect a positive change in this world. Check the source for help.

Answer 9

i used to do the same...just think of it this way...if u were a mom and u saw ur child slashing their wrists how would u feel...stop now while ur still young and make a mistake...sometimes u can cut urself so deep and not realize it and then u have a bigger problem...things will get better...stay strong and always remember ur not alone and there are others out there worse off...and i survived it so can u!!!! HUGS!!!!

Answer 10

You should talk to a shrink if you can. You might be surprised. There's no judgement, no expectations. Enlightening best describes it.

been there,13 does suck, it gets so much better, it just seems like it takes forever. hang in there, have fun every chance you can