The mom is nice enough, but her kid is an absolute terror. I don't want my kid learning any bad habits or frankly being this kids friend. Anyone else been in this situation before?
2007-03-16 16:05:45 · 14 answers · asked by tapping toes 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes, been there. Just tell the parent your child is not up to playing with her child. Believe me, she will understand. She must have difficulty getting play dates if her child behaves this way, so you may not be the first one to cancel dates. Don't force your child to play with someone who behaves like a bully. For any future play dates, just refuse up front without any explanation other than your child is not up to playing with hers.
2007-03-16 16:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by Girls M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With a toddler, even if you want to go on the playdate, chances are good that something will come up and one of you will have to reschedule. Simply tell her that it's just not a good time and you'll call to reschedule. She should understand. If you really feel you need to keep the playdate, go to a park in nice weather where at least there will be lots of other kids too.
2007-03-16 23:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by Liza 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think the best way is to flat out tell her that you don't think that it's a good idea for the kids to play anymore, because your kid is starting to get her kid bad habits. Raising kids can be tough and maybe this mom is clueless that her kid has bad habits. Tell her what her kid is doing and say that you don't approve of that kind of behavior with your kid.
2007-03-17 00:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the mother that when the kids get around each other that they are learning bad habits from each other... Im sure that she know that her child is terror, but telling her politely is key.
2007-03-16 23:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by jess_pickel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that. While the truth is sometimes painful, it needs to be said. It might hurt her feelings to know that her child and your child are not a good match for play dates, but telling her will most certainly prevent future invitations.
Tell the mother that your children are not compatible with each other and you are looking for other options for your child. (AND THEN DO IT! DON'T LIE!)
If she is really nice, she will get the message and you can move on.
If she continues to schedule play dates, make sure that you plan OTHER activities at the time that she normally wants to get your children together and firmly tell her that you have made other plans. You do not have to tell her what those plans are unless you want to be joined at the hip to a child who's personal behavior is not ideal!
Local libraries offer reading time for children; local museums and science learning centers offer childrens activities; check local churches to see if they have a mother's morning out program in which your child could participate (you don't have to be a member of their church generally); create your OWN play group with other children; talk to people at your local church or synagogue to see if they are interested in forming a play group.
Whatever you choose to do, stand your ground. If you don't wish to have your child mimic the behavior of a child without good manners, you have to be proactive. Good luck.
2007-03-17 11:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by stonechic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they have not had a play yet I would take him but watch them carefully. Your kid might be a good influence and learning social skills is what play dates are all about.
If it doesnt work out then you have a good reason not to set another one .
2007-03-17 00:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her the truth. If you don't you are going to be trying to get out of play dates forever.
2007-03-16 23:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could lie, or you could keep the date, but try not to make another one. Or you could tell her how you feel and offer to try and help her curb her kid's bad habits.
2007-03-16 23:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kat H 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
"I'm just not going to be able to make it today. I'll give you a call when I'm able to reschedule."
Then you don't call. It's passive aggressive but if she's not entirely lacking in social skills she'll get it.
2007-03-16 23:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
never had this problem but say your kid is coming down with something. could work.
2007-03-16 23:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by pwrgrlmanda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋