i was friends with this one guy and he was really cool. he was old enough to be my dad, and i could tell that he liked me. we never had sex or anything.. but a lot of flirting went on... calling on the phone and cell phone, and compliments whenever we saw one another. he disclosed a lot of personal things to me.. as well as i did to him...we were always happy to see each other.. and i think we boosted each others egos.
he is considered an authority figure.. and in some peoples eyes it was seen as unethical. i have argued with many that, we were just friends and nothing was ever done sexually between us. we both have significant others .. he is married and i have a boyfriend... but never once did we bring them up...not once... my best friend seems to think that we were having an emotional affair...whats your opinion?
2007-03-16 16:00:17 · 9 answers · asked by apple martini 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes, I agree
2007-03-16 16:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by Brandiibaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie the fact that you two are not only spending time together and calling each other and whatever else you're not doing, shows that you enjoy each other's company. If you're flirting with someone other than the person you're with there's a problem. It's always emotional when you're putting your attention on someone other the person you're with. You should be spending so much time together that you don't have time to be with anything else. If you're keeping your relationship secretive, not telling your boyfriend and he's definitely not telling his wife because no man or woman wants the person their with to be spending time with someone of the opposite sex, that's a very uncomfortable situation. If you like this guy so much, because it's obvious you don't love your boyfriend or else he'd be the only you'd be spending time with, break up with him and let him go because you're leading him on. If you're keeping him there as a back-up and safe house that isn't fair either. Nothing good is going to come out of this situation, and if it isn't benefiting you than it shouldn't be apart of your life. You should think of the outcome before you act, it can save people a lot of trouble. Good luck babe!
2007-03-16 16:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your friend. If you are disclosing a lot of personal things to him..that you should be telling your bf. That is an emotional affair. I think this relationship is bound to get ugly...flirting..compliments..lead to more. Stop now while you can.
2007-03-16 16:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah sorry , you are playing with fire there!! think how would you respond to the tables being turned?? I would challenge you to think about how you really feel about your boyfriend. Because if you really were honest you would agree with your friend. It was unethical the fact that you behaved in the manner that you did!! I would not tolerate it you were my girlfriend
2007-03-16 16:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by kellyannecares 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't think so unless your saying things to him you wouldn't say to him if your boyfriend was around. like i'll tell anyone anything even in front of my boyfriend. if you can't do that then its an affair.
2007-03-16 16:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can answer that better than anyone else, but I think you were. it was fun, and no one got hurt. Leave it there!
2007-03-16 16:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have been. The biggest indicator: do you feel guilty?
2007-03-16 16:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your friend.
2007-03-16 16:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure sounds like it to me.
2007-03-16 16:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋