I've thought long & hard & how much this will impact my life & everyone around me. I want to get out of the things I'm in. I feel like I have the need to run away. I've had long & hard talks with the people in my life. My family, friends & other peopl of guidance in my life & I still feel this gut renching need to run. I want a new life I suppose, like I've screwed this one up so much. I've hurt too many people in the process & the worst part, is I knew I was doing wrong. I feel that if I just leave them then they can worry a bit about me & my safety, but when you cut down the the nitty gritty, it wont be in theire hands anymore. They wont need to suffur for my consiquenses & stupid mistakes. I've ruined someone life to a great extent of which I can not discuss but if I run awya & leave it all behind maybe they can get out of trouble because I wont be around to tell my side of the story. They can eventually start out fresh themselves once I've left they're lives. Should I run?
2007-03-16 15:14:00 · 30 answers · asked by Lor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hang on a minute!!!!! no one ever said life was going to be easy. Do you really think that anyone honestly expects you to be flawless. Making mistakes is a huge part of every persons learning curve. it is VITAL. If you want to stop the cycle, the plan of running away will not only prove to be the biggest blunder of your life, you will cause intense hurt and anguish to those who love you. If you want to get the most out of life, you wont get it by running away, you get it by looking into the depths of your soul and summoning up the courage you need to deal with what ever issues you have running against you right now. I promise you that running away will not solve anything, it will only make things much worse. If you want to stop hurting people, then make the change necessary to make them PROUD of you. More important, make the changes necessary to make YOU proud of who you are. I sincerely wish you the good sense to do the right thing, and the courage to deal with whatever it is you decide to do. Good luck! I mean that in the kindest way possible
2007-03-16 15:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by al b 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not thinking clearly.
You can't imagine the anguish you would cause if you ran away.
The uncertainty of not knowing whether you're dead or alive is a HORRIBLE experience to put your friends and family through.
It's not like them worrying when you're 10 minutes late; it will haunt them and cause them really tremendous suffering and uncertainty -- possibly for the rest of their lives.
Imagine, them wondering -- uncertainty is the worst -- and imagining all the worst possible things happening to you, over and over, every day.
They will not just get over the worry and go on "La, la, la, la, la." It will leave a gaping wound that will most likely NEVER heal (or at best, heal 40 years from now).
That's what people go through in the face of that much uncertainty.
It would be mean to do this (in the way that suicide is mean to those left behind).
Do NOT do this.
Get a phone book, and call a youth hot-line. Those people can help you, and help you get further help.
Running away wouldn't fix things for you anyway. You wouldn't be starting fresh, because you will be taking you with you.
Because you will have run away, rather than worked through things, you'll just keep doing the same bad stuff over and over.
Call a hot-line every time you feel this way. They will put you in touch with people who can help you, so you don't feel like running away any more.
2007-03-17 01:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Running away will not solve anything you may think it will but believe me it want and to add to that another problem and another situation will arise. I don't no all that is going on with you or has happen but first i would say to you to pray ask God to show you what you need to do, and trust me he will. Sometimes we all screw up we're not perfect, their is always room for improvement but you have to understand not to make the same mistake again. You say you want a new life you can start fresh where you are. You might just will hurt them more bye leaving so don't runaway. It may seem hard but remember that running is not the answer it will only cause more suffering an heart aches in the end,and if you thought long an hard you no its not the answer. I hope that you will reconsider your thinking, and i wish you well and you are important.
2007-03-16 23:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a pet or stray. If you think that running away is going to help them to start over or begin fresh, you're wrong. Your running away only robs people who care about you the chance to set things right. And God-forbid should anything happen you. You think they're upset now? All they will have left is their guilt and ANGER towards you. This isn't an afterschool special or a Lifetime movie for women. Running away is a corny way to gain sympathy.
2007-03-16 22:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by ladylee1230 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..don't run! You can never run away from yourself so in effect you will just be carrying the problems with you. As for te other person, you not telling your side won't keep them from getting asked the questions. Try to find a local councelor. Your local hospital probably has a social worker that can direct you to where you need to be no matter what the problem is.
2007-03-16 22:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by mysandia2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should NOT run. running away would be the most coward thing to do. try doing good to people next to you. and help others. leaving is not a solution, it will only create problems ! think how worried your family will be if you disapear ! try helping others as much as possible, and it is still possible to start a new life in the same environment. join a new club or sport and make new friends. i hope that helped a little. good luck. my opinion=you should not run away, its always easier to run away from problems than to face them. there is a solution to everything. but in the end, do what you think is best. good luck
2007-03-16 22:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by Bruno S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are you out of high school? Have you thought of where you woould go and what kind of job you would get? Who would you stay with until you had enough money to pay for a place of your own? If you're still a minor how are you going to get a bank account, living space, or anything that requires parental signature?
Think long and hard about it. You'll realize how irrational it is to leave people that care about you.
2007-03-16 22:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by aymay143 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
running away can't erase what has already happened. And it won't take your mind off what has happened; in fact, you may just find yourself more upset.
Also, running away is not fair to the ppl that love you. If you care about them and care about mistakes you have made, then stay and deal with it. At most, distance urself a bit for awhile.
So rry about whatever happened, and rememeber, there WILL be better times ahead...
2007-03-16 22:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by bdazz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You say you've screwed up your life, and only running can help repair it, but that isn't true. If you're a teenager, then running can only screw up your life more. If you arn't, running away can tear you away from family and friends you've had for ages, and have to start out new. Starting out new can be refreshing, but it can also be hard. Never run away from what is hard, but fight to fix your mistakes.
2007-03-16 22:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by Natalie Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel as if you did that would make things even worse. I have felt like a failure in my life plenty of times. I have done so many things wrong and have hurt a lot of people. But I have only pushed past it and have learned to grow stronger and better myself as a person. Everybody screws up in their life. You put it behind you and learn from it. I believe with time, you will only grow stronger and into a better person. I would not dwell on this or think such negative thoughts, because its only going to make things worse. Just think of ways to improve yourself to make yourself happy and other people around you. I'm sure you have people you love and care about in your life. You just need to think of ways of respecting them and yourself! This is something you just need to push past you. You will get through it!!! =]
2007-03-16 22:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by Odessa Fraser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋