recently divorced from an alcoholic/addict that still wont leave me alone broke in my house the other day i just do not know what to do broke cant find a job feel helpless
2007-03-16 15:09:37 · 12 answers · asked by Faye F 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
restraining order for the ex. and visit the unemployment office ASAP. Even if they give you a crap job, take it and keep looking. You'll be more likely to be hired into a better job when you are currently working.
Go to church. Find one that you like and meet new people. Get involved in community activities. You can contact your county commissioner's office for lists of activities.
2007-03-16 15:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by JLB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ideally you would be best to shift house (and not let the ex know where you are living) but I realise that in your current financial situation this may not be possible.
Maybe there might be a job packing shelves at your local supermarket, cleaner etc. That way you can make some money and get out of the house. It's a start and you can keep applying for other jobs as well.
As soon as you have developed an income perhaps enquire about sharing accommodation with someone else (housemates) which would cut costs and give you the added security of having others in the house.
Living with others, and working, might help you improve your social contacts.
If you feel in danger please contact the police, or an organisation that assists with domestic violence. Don't suffer alone!
2007-03-16 15:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by Peta G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learned with others so many things, that probably I won't encounter to know for the rests of this life without mind, emotional, spiritual connections and correspondences with more others of different ages, genders and races.. Though some others might have been self obsessed, then it is whether if they'll come up into realization in time or not. When their connections were made to be successfully enough for themselves as well then, they probably could get the best significant thing needed for improvement and growth.. But it truly can help others with far distances relatives and friends...So I think that statement above is all assumingly and foolish to generalize it for everyone. Specially those who have not yet experienced it for a longer time, Nor for those who merely joined just for a whim, and with schemes that are purposely very selfish and vain as well.. It may also truly depend on how human principles are derived from by implementation, to communicate and connect effectively while expressing the self to others... Have a nice time..!
2016-03-29 02:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order. You dont have to live this way. Trust me. I have been there. I know the feeling of helplessness. You will never be free untill you are free of him. I know you are broke, but there is a ton of free counseling out there for you. You can also go to alanon...its free, and you need to learn how to not be his co-dependant. Take control again. Dont let him control you. I know how you feel. I just know. If you have ever had him arrested before sometimes the state can offer you aid to move and get back on your feet, even medical bills. You see, mine was an abusive alcoholic and I wound up in the hospital. Dont let it happen to you. I wish I could talk more with you about it. I have so much more to say. I will try and help you as much as possible. I wish you luck.
2007-03-16 15:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by mlock123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all dont give up.Everyone hits a low spot in there lives sometimes.It sounds like you are at that point.You have been at that point for a while and it will take some time to get out of it.But now that you are divorced you can try and put your life back together.Do you have a restraining order out for you ex?If not you may need to get one so he will not be allowed to come within ten feet of you....Also go to your local Employment office.That would be a great place to start looking for employment.They will have a list of jobs that are available in your area.Just dont give up.
2007-03-16 15:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ liz ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, I would get a restraining warrant. The next time he shows up, he can go to jail. If I were you, I would see if I could talk to a psychiatrist. His alcoholism could be a reason why you feel this way. A lot of times, you can check within your community, they have classes (usually free) for people going through divorces & mental health. Here's a website that I found, http://www.beliefnet.com ...I wish you the best of luck, & I don't know you but I will pray for you.
2007-03-16 15:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by iluvmydoggies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is gonna sound so gay ,but in the morning look yourself in the mirror and give urself 3 comments u can use the same one twice. if ur broke think real hard about what u want to do and make ur own business, thats what my mom did she got tid of working for wierd people so now she works for herself. go to a club once i a while find a good person for u or go to eharmony , but i dont really sugest that that much cause my mom did that and it took her three days to do the test thing and then when she finished it said that it couldnt find a match so try match.com.
2007-03-16 15:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a psychiatrist and evaluate your feelings.There is nothing wrong with talking things out. You may not even need meds. Most importantly, take care of yourself , love yourself. Think positive thoughts and remember that you are special!
2007-03-16 15:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by erin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you that will really help but, just please don't give up hope. Hold your head up high and keep trying. Get a restaining order on the ex. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-03-16 15:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by Cindy J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
report it to police snd get a restraining order also maybe talk to a professional like a priest even if you're not religous they are great listeners and don't cost
2007-03-16 15:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by kk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋