ok i'm in a relationship with a really great guy and i'm in love with him but i just found out that his ex girlfriend just had a miscarrige and he looks really hurt so i wanna give him what he lost oh and by the way he has no other kids and we love each other a lot. Help!!!
2007-03-16 14:59:09 · 52 answers · asked by JAZMIN G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think its wrong to have a baby at 16 years old. I think that you are not fully mature enough to have a baby though. Does your boyfriend work, do you work? Are you ready to stay up at night and tend to the baby? Is your boyfriend going to help? Are you going to have a stable place to live while taking care of the baby? Always remeber that babies do not stay babies forever. One day they will be 16 just like you.
Ps. If your grown enough to spread your legs, then you are grown enough to raise the child. Remember that!
2007-03-16 15:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by mcpark2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, but this is not a good reason. You're operating on a rescue fantasy here - that if you can rescue him from his grief he will want to stay with you long enough to raise a child. Think about this!
There are some advantages to having a baby when young - you have more energy. On the other hand, having a baby at 16 is a serious impediment to going to college and having a financially secure life. Most couples have to have individual full time jobs to make ends meet. Babies can add a lot of stress to this equation. If I were you, I'd use birth control and wait.
2007-03-16 15:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the risk of offending you .... and I think you know it is wrong or you would not be asking....
I do not think you have graduated from high school ... and if he has ...I doubt he has a job that will support both him ..you and the baby in a life of comfort and not just live on welfare.....
A baby is not a puppy ...it will take very minute of your time for the next 20 years and if you do not believe that ..ask a mother of some children who are involved w/ their children.....
Why is he not with his ex GF prob because when she was 6 plus months along she had no interst in sex and he lost interest in her....
You say you care for him you love him ... young lady you have puppy love ... i know you think it is real ...trust me it is not it is infatuation it is wanton sexual attraction it is not love....not love...
Please for the love of god and if you care at all about your self...do not do this ...dump this guy...he has interest in your body and the sex he can get from you and nothing else....
you are too young to appreciate the life long responsibilties you are about to take upon yourself .....believe me if you do this he will have no interest in you or the child....
PLEASE FINISH YOUR EDUCATION ...GO TO COLLEGE .... GET A GOOD JOB AND THEN WHEN YOU ARE 25 OR SO HOPEFULLY YOU WILL HAVE MET A GOOD MAN WHO CARES ABOUT YOU NOT THE SEX HE CAN GET FROM YOU AND THEN HAVE THAT FAMILY AND REALLY BE ABLE TO ENJOY BEING A MOTHER
there is not a 16 year old mother anywhere who loves the fact she did not wait....................
2007-03-16 15:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by geophys63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting pregnant at 16 is moronic. A baby isnt something that you give to another person as a gift to make them happy.
It is a human being that will be yours to take care of forever. Also a baby WILL NOT keep a guy around. Think about giving birth in the hospital alone, while he's with his new, non-pregnant girlfriend. If he really wanted to have a baby with this other girl he wouldnt be dating you. If you get pregnant he'll probably find someone new.
2007-03-16 15:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl what if the relationship doesn't work out ur to young 2 be having a child at this age. There's so much things 4 u 2 do at dis age. I'm not saying having a baby iz a bad thing but come on think about it. who's gonna pay for everything when u have the baby. Use ur life wisely at dis age ok sweetie i'm young my self.
2007-03-16 15:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jazmin G: You can not be serious. You are in a "relationship" with someone whose "ex" just had a miscarriage.?? So he broke up with her how long ago? and you are already in bed with him? It is not possible to really love each other a lot at your age. If you broke up with him today hewould have another girl in bed within a week. Go talk to your mother -- You are just being an emotional idiot to even consider having a child when you have not even finished high school, you have no job prospects and no real good source of income. Your own body isnt even through growing and you want it to produce another human --- hello -- is anybody home?????? Get a clue, dont have a babyfor this jerk.-k-
2007-03-16 15:07:34 · answer #6 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DON'T DO IT! You have so much to look forward to in your future and having a baby can definitely change things! One of my friends had a baby a year ago at that age and her boyfriend left her! They're not together anymore and my friend can't go out to party because she has a baby boy to take care of.. If your boyfriend really loved you, he would wait. Oh, and by the way, what makes you think that he won't leave you like he left his ex-girlfriend?! Take care of yourself..
2007-03-16 15:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Yoya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys have the next 20 years to have a child. As much as you think it will not, you will change and everything will change a lot in the next 5 years for you. However if you have a kid, that will never change and you are stuck with the decision.
Listen to everyone that tells you no even though you dont think they understand. When you get older (I am 28) You realize that you should have listened to older people! Even though they are corny and not cool, they know what is up with life.
2007-03-16 15:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by michael p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you know I will be answering No, it's not OK. I'll tell you why. You want to give him a baby to replace the baby his ex-girlfriend just lost. He left his girlfriend who was pregnant and now he feels bad that he lost the baby. He may feel bad about that but he LEFT HIS BABY AND GIRLFRIEND. Think about it. Just so you know I had a baby at 16 and it was no picnic. Imagine being grounded for the rest of your life, that is what it feels like to raise another human being at 16. Think hard before you give him this gift. Remember HE LEFT HIS BABY AND GIRLFRIEND.
2007-03-16 15:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by sharene h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please tell you are kidding...honey its not wrong to have a kid at 16 but do you really want to???....im pretty sure he's hurt but i think he is relieved...he has probably learned his lesson and when a man is ready to have kids he will let you know. Dont sacrifice yourself for that cause its not fair to the baby who wants mature parents who have steady jos and cangive it everything it needs and wants. Please wait until you both are ready.. Chances are things wont work out the way you think they will if you get pregnant....do you really want to spend the rest of years crying and taking care of a crying baby at the same time while he's still immature and not in your life. No you want better....for yourself for your fututre baby...so right now focus on you...When he sees you are mature and have a great job and him too you can get married and have your baby............I dont want to see your question 1 year from now about the wrong choice you made and how to fix it...there is still time now wait
2007-03-16 15:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by amor_dove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋