My bf a& i have nearly been togetha for 3 yrs but a few mnths ago we went on a break coz we couldnt handle eachotha anymore we were beginnin 2 h8 eachotha & he had been telling his friends that he cheated on me (which wasnt true, he just wanted 2 see who were his friends & who wernt). By him doing that i began not love him anymore & it hurt so much that hed said that, i didnt believe him. So we went on a break all the while one of my friends who had just broken up with his fionce was courting me & i thort he liked me & we were both in a very vunerable state. We did the deed which didnt prove any feelings 4 eachotha & i swore that i would stay with my bf 4eva coz i knew i loved him & i couldnt love anyone else the same way. So me & my boy got back togetha & the guilt ate at me for months about what i had done so i told him (he i both no that we want to b togetha 4 the rest of our lifes) but he wants time 2 think, this has been done to him b4 im scared he wont think we deserve eachotha.
2007-03-16 14:58:42 · 7 answers · asked by bella g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact of the matter is that i did the wrong thing out of complete emotional and psycological stress. No matter if we were together or not it still doesnt justify the action. If you love someone you would never do something like what i have done. I love this boy with all my heart and i cant bear to lose him! he says "i dont know i fi can be with u if i cant trust you and if there isnt any trust then there is no love" that statement just breaks my heart. Theres got to be a way to re-build trust over time theres got to be a way to re-build the love. This boy is my life and i cant bear to see the pain on his face when he looks at me.
2007-03-16 20:37:44 · update #1
it happens 2 d best of us, females always try 2 find the easiest way out cuz break ups hurt so much, but the easiest is not always the best. we all make mistakes and the good thing is u've acknowledged that you made a mistake, don't push him too far away just allow love 2 take its course and give him time to recuperate. its good that you were honest and told him b4 he found out elsewhere. another thing breaks in a relationship is never a good idea, it leaves loop holes for just about any and every thing most times ending as permanent breaks. the games you were playing 2 test true friendship were not a good idea, hope you learned from this, life is an experience, live it!!
2007-03-24 14:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by sexysania01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you did what you did on the break obviously the real problem is something on his part what guy goes around telling his buddies that the girl I love cheated on me when you in fact didn't. Give him up and move on the guy doesn't deserve you. You deserve something much better than that. It is okay to have a broken hart , heal and then let it go move on. You need to treat one another with respect. He did not do that and then to have issues with your actions while you were separated What did he do? Just let it go and move on.
2007-03-24 20:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by Kari K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I read your hugely long question I only got to the part about him telling everyone that he cheated on you. And I stopped right there because I had to tell you that there's no way he only said that to see who his friends are. What a load of b.s. Honey he cheated on you cause he was already over the relationship. And you need to get over it to. There's no point going back into a situation with some body you said you h8ed.
2007-03-24 12:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by tarakootenay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have done something, but you did it while you two weren't together, so technically, it's not like you did anything wrong. however, its best if you guys talk about it and restart slower, beginning as close friends and gradually getting closer. that may work out better :]
2007-03-16 22:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by miisty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry too much about it 'cause nobody tells their friends that they're cheating on you just to see who their friends are...and if you believe that then you probably do deserve him.
2007-03-16 22:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you two wernt togeather you didnt do anything wrong, but chances are you two will get back togeather, next time dont say anything if you wernt wrong
2007-03-16 22:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by jason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the relationship a break for a while
2007-03-16 22:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋