I moved to my hubby's city after marriage, whereby I really met my in-laws and my hubby's friends for the first time. I was feeling lonely bcoz my ONLY bro-in-law has a g/friend who rarely comes to visit us at home when she knew I'm needy of the company. We are both young women who could share many things together. My bro-in-law always visit alone, whenever Missy indulges with her own female friends. When my bro-in-law invited us over, it's 4 the same reason.I'm disappointed that I hve 2 stick with the guys. I wanted to know more.But when our parents in-laws hold reunions she''s always there 2 grin & bear. I felt bitter, bcoz i felt I'm not worthy of her company. She found out that I was BFF with another in-law, and NOW she wants me to include her in our outings.! What about my feelings when she left me out ? I'm thinking that 3's a crowd. The other in-law is the only 1, I can pour my heart out with, and I couldn't talk openly if others are around. Is this possesiveness or vengeence?
2007-03-16 14:08:39 · 21 answers · asked by She-whom-shall-not-be-named 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Of course I want my own friends from outside! My old frinds are too far away if u read well. But I don't hve a job yet here. That's why I thought my in-law friend is my saviour for now!
2007-03-16 14:36:21 · update #1
Don't you think its time you found your own friends and groups remember relatives are inflicted on you your friends you make
2007-03-16 14:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think its normal so what you should do is leave her be only talk to her when your around her just to be polite she is not your ''real friend'' she only wants attention from your friends cause your getting the attention she dont seem to like that very much so dont feel your not worthy of her company cause its the other way around if she wants to be that way let her just shrug it off what i would do is take your friend an your self out to eat mabe at a social bar an find friends an locals in your area that would like to hang out with you i do it sometimes an i have found my best friends that way just start making convo with some one an before you know it you will have a few numbers at the end of the night from ppl wanting to hang out with you all the time an no im not talkin ab out dating you worded your paragraph hard but i did see you said you had a husband an may i suggest you also make a trip to visit your old friends or mabe they visit you o an see if there are any other social places like mabe a club restraunt or even your neighbor hood it wont be hard wants you get the hang of it good luck hun buh bye
2007-03-24 04:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by none of your biz. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bro-in-laws girlfriend wants everyone to like her best. You are the wife. Therefore you hold more cards in the family then her. This is why she did not let you in. I would move on from her and socialize and try to get more involved with friends out side the family. I know it's hard but join some groups or clubs.
2007-03-23 02:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out and make friends of your own. then the problems you have with family wont seem so bad. are there some groups you could join. classes you could attend. you will make new friends while learning a new trade or hobby . contact your local library or college and find out more. try not to get so upset about your in-laws. do not let this bossy individual tag along on your outings. sounds like she is out to cause trouble.
2007-03-21 09:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by fushia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do need to get a Part time job and make New Friends. Unless you get out in the World, you are gonna be stuck with maybe's.
2007-03-23 03:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to include your in-law to your outings, a mean cuz u guys are family now, maybe if you do this, your in-law would appreiated u more and try to make you feel less left out at her get to gathers
2007-03-16 14:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by jshortii06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you are just protecting yourself from being let down again..I mean, why should you go out of your way to invite someone that never goes out of her way to even come over and visit? Ya know? I think that you are in the right.. and I dont think you should feel obligated to invite her. Just kindly forget to call her - she will realize whats going on after she doesnt get invited a few times.. and maybe she will come forward with friendship instead of expect it when its convenient. Take care and good luck!
2007-03-16 14:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by callmecouture 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I realize how hurt you was when she left you out of her activities. However, this an opportunity to show her that you are the bigger person. Remember, if you want to bury someone with revenge; bring 2 shovels, one for her and the other for yourself.
2007-03-16 14:14:36 · answer #8 · answered by nixdad96 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This woman does not OWE you anything. First, you want her to include you , then you don't want to include her. You expect too much. Try acting more mature. YOU are the one being possessive. You need to realize that they are not married and she may have her own reasons for the things she does.
2007-03-16 14:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were you I would get out a little, maybe get a job and make yourself some new friends of your own then it wouldnt matter so much if your inlaws dont include you in their matters.
2007-03-16 14:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by joolee 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋