so i had a class with this guy about 6 months earlier and I would always see him at school. Recently I saw him on myspace so I added him and sent him a msg just saying who I was. He never sent me a msg back so I figured "okay doesnt like me". Then 2 days after I see him on the bus and he sits like 2 seats away from me. It felt as if he was looking at me but I felt like an idiot because he never responded. When his friend left he said something about "good luck with your ex" and the guy responded, "she just wants me to call her." I heard she caused him a lot of problems after they broke up. After I still felt like he was looking at me. So is it possible that maybe he does have a thing for me but this confusion for his ex is getting in the way of him going after another girl? Would it be okay to see him the halls and then smile and wave at him? What should I do? What is going too far? Why would he stare at me if he didnt like? He would even stare at me before I added him.
2007-03-16 14:05:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want this guy then go for it!
The best way to do it is to approach him in private, like talking with him while you are waiting for the bus. And tell him, "I couldn't help hearing about problems with your ex-girlfriend, and I don't want to add to them, but if you want I would like to go out with you sometime." Then leave it at that. Otherwise you can talk with him, wave to him in the hall and anything that a friend would do. By offering your sympathy you have shown that you care, and by saying that you would like to go out you have given him the green light, that if he asks you then you won't refuse him. Since you did this in private you aren't putting pressure on him and you aren't making him have to perform for his friends. You have also breached the greatest obstacle between men and women. Men fear rejection so if you signal that you won't turn him down then he is about 90% more likely to ask you out. If not then he either isn't interested, he doesn't know you well enough yet, or he is still interested in getting back with his ex.
Either way you have told him that you are interested and you would like to be his friend. You haven't told him you won't be looking for other guys. You have left the options open for you and added an option for him. Since you are being casual about it he won't pursue you unless his is a total a_ _ hole, or he has finished with the other girl. Either way use your instincts to read him and look at his intentions. Men don't think as deeply as women do, nor half as complicated. We are more direct thinkers.
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2007-03-16 14:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dan S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am probably old enough to be your grampaw,
and not trying to hit on you through the internet.
Based on what you have said, I think you have
good instincts about guys, and you can trust
your feelings, or if you are a SW fan, you can
trust your feelings and let the Force Be With
You. Just be careful that's all. Or, if it's like
playing cards, make it a friendly game of cards.
Just protect yourself, but give the guy a chance.
That's all I wanna say, except nothing matters
more than sincerity. You can usually read that
in his eyes.
2007-03-16 21:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably not sure if it was really you thaht sent the message.try again and this time say somthing that would need a response.then you will see the light.trust me....
2007-03-16 21:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure he was staring at you? sounds like he probably not interested.... i think you should keep things normal as friends....then find out for sure if he have a thing for you.
2007-03-16 21:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time to get over his ex...Then try and talk to him....
2007-03-16 21:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋