I was with my ex for 4 years (on and off) an i'm not in love with him, but i still have soo many feelings for him, and its hard to just up and leave him alone. cause we're talkin 4 years of my life with him, i dont want it all to be a waste.. so does anyone have any suggestions?
2007-03-16 13:42:39 · 8 answers · asked by Im always gonna be me! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time, my dear...lots of time.
he will always be held in a special place in your heart, but thats ok.
it wasn't a waste of your time, you have some good memories & you learned a lot. take some time to recover and what ever you do don't rush into another relationship, if it happens great. but you don't need anyone to "complete you", your already there.
yes it is sad & its ok to feel empty & lost...but this too will pass in time and you will be stronger for it.
i lost my wife, of 7yrs, after a drunk driver took her from me 4 yrs ago, just 8 days after giving my daughter.
i am making it...you can too.
strong people cry, i still do.
2007-03-16 13:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get over him by going out with your friends so maybe you can meet someone else. I know this doesn't sound so great since you went out with someone for 4 years, but not many people stay with their first loves for the rest of ther lives.
Yes, 4 years is a lot of time of having just one boyfriend and it does seem like a waste. But all of the good memories you made with him will be with you for the rest of your life, and everyone always wants to remember their first love. so just try to move on and try to live happily.
Good Luck!!!!!!!
:D
2007-03-16 13:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years is a long time. Even if you don't love him at all the habit of seeing him and having him as part of your life will be incredibly hard to break.
But mix feelings in there and it is going to be difficult and painful. It hasn't been a waste. Don't think like that. You are who you are now because of your past and he was part of that. that isn't a waste. Sometimes things end because we grow and have to move on sometimes the other person moves on and sometimes in order to grow we need to move on. At this point all you really need to concern yourself with is keeping busy. Keep your mind occupied. Time will lessen things but you have to want it to. You have to decide that you really want to get over him. then you can start pushing thoughts of him out everytime they pop in. You can remind yourself that you are better without him....whether or not you actually think so.
2007-03-16 13:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make 2 lists.
One for the good things from your relationship.
The second list will be the bad things.
Give yourself the total chance to completely review the last 4 years. You will see how the road led you to end the relationship. You will then appreciate the goods things while letting go of all of those residual feelings.
2007-03-16 13:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by kitchenheatindex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I;m going through the same situation so I just brush him off evrytime he tries to call me or do anything that we used to do. I try to hurt his feelings more often then I did. It seems like none of it is working ,so don't except his calls in the late hours and he assumes that I'm with some else. That makes him call me all types of B itches. Now he stop calling and I haven't seen him in 2 weeks.
2007-03-16 13:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by Ericqua 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, is your Heart beating, on agan, off again? No! Then why would you want your Live to. Huh? Get in lince with the old Thumper. It wants you happy. Listen to the tickin'. It can show you who is gonna make you happy. ALL THE TIME! Luck to ya!
2007-03-16 13:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been doing that myself, but i still love my ex as i did the day we met. Anyhow.... who says you have to up and leave... just take space, and if you want,. make a day where this is the only day you guys hang out together. other then call or write each other. nothing wrong staying friends unless you don't want to , then just severe ties, and hang with other friends whom can distract you from him....
2007-03-16 13:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by Patsy Cline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is love, hun. you began wasting your time with him the moment you realized you didn't love each other.
2007-03-16 13:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by Earl D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋